2006-11-20 21:39:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd stay away from her and keep my son with me.
Let the hubby deal with her so I wouldn't have to tell her what I think of the situation. And make sure he knows what 'grandma' is doing.
I'm rude and crude, so when the family ticks me off, they're aware of it quickly. More than one family member has been told off and put in their place rudely.
2006-11-20 21:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like to make assumptions, but I am, I assume your husband is aware of this on going problem! what does he say about it? how does he feel? is he willing to talk her them about this? how often do you have contact with them ( not really the issue, but if it is far in between, then you can be a little more forward ).. now. if he says he will talk to her..make him do it NOW! and get back to you NOW with answers. if he is not willing to talk to her..( put sanctions against him at home..you know what I mean ) and then TELL him you ARE going to handle it yourself, and you do not want ANY feedback from him..as he had his chance..I tell everyone this..sit down with a few pieces of paper and make an outline like you were doing a project for school, after you have it all done, let it sit until the next day, then sit down when it is calm adn quiet, and read it, use pencil and make any revisions, and do this for a few days, then after you have re-read it a minimum of three times, you may have added or deleted stuff from it....now print it out...you can do a few things now..mail it to her, ask if you can come over to talk, and use the written paper as your back up as you talk ( nicely and calmly talk) I would try to stay some,what to the paper so you do not say things you really do not want to say..after all, this relationship is going to be around for a lot of years, plus, mom will tell son, and you will have to deal with that too. so keep to the point, make if concise, but you can say it all nicely...do your work at home first..you will appreciate it that you did it over a few days...I might just mail it out if it was me...but I am also a very touchy person and love to do things eye to eye..
think before you do anything
plus above all, keep the child completely out of it, no one I repeat, no one should ask the child anything concerning this problem..why make his life any more problematic, or make him more aware of this problem..as far as he will know ( or should know ) is boy my grandparents love me more now....and that's all eh should know...
good luck
smile
2006-11-21 02:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well see, this is a very touchy subject for me. I dont think ANYONE has the right to be nasty with your child. You need to talk to her about it asap or if you're like me, your just going to end up blowing up on her and telling her off one day when she says something mean to your son.
2006-11-20 21:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband how you feel, then make demands... you are the mother, you have no obligation to place the child in a position where you feel uncomfortable, or you worry about his long-term emotional welfare... would you take your child to a prison and let random criminals play with him? would you let the junkies down the street play with him out of your sight? Would you bring him up as a christian? of course not... so why would you risk it by having him 'abused', just because the 'abuser' is blood related?
2006-11-20 21:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jon S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is perenial problem between daughter - in- law and mother - in - law and nothing except separation would solve this problem but it would hurt the poor son/husband very badly but nothing could be done.
2006-11-20 21:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband wont do anything about it, tell the B*tch that she is not welcomed in your home or your child's life until she learns how to treat him. Make sure she knows that your FIRST priority is to your child because he is innocent and that you aren't going to allow anyone to mistreat your child.
2006-11-20 22:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let her touch your son anymore so could have the hint
2006-11-20 21:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by geez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and ask her why she treats him bad. Keep her away from him
2006-11-20 21:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not exceptable,i would ask her why she is so angry with him [ you don't say his age ]try to resolve in a timely ,respectable manner.you will have to be more specific w/ her. happy holidays
2006-11-20 21:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay far, far, far away from her you and your son should tolerate any abuse from her.
2006-11-20 21:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by prettypueo1812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋