i am a very romance person but find it very difficult to express it as i was in a relationship when i was 21 and he was sleeping with a married woman the whole lenght of our relationship now i am afraid to get close to anyone 10 years later i let on that i am not that bothered about them, how can i change this.
2006-11-20 21:22:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were badly hurt and this has lft damage. I wish people would stop and think about the lasting consequences of their actions in others lives. But then selfishness rules sometimes.
To move on ......ten years is a long time. The guys you meet now are more mature...they will have had their share of hurt. If a relationship is beginning to form tell the guy your experience and feelings......communication lay it down that trust is the most important thing to you (well is to most of us) but communication. Pick yourself up and risk trusting you might be plaeasantly surprised.
2006-11-20 21:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way is by positive experience. Until you actually have an honest person as your lover/partner you will have but only the last experience of deception to remember.
You have started changing it by your acknowledgment of it and you desire to want it changed. There are many honest people you could have a successful relationship with. Use your interests and spiritual gatherings and or classes to mingle and meet new individuals. Have faith in your judgment to choose a valid individual as a friend and maybe a close intimate. You are much older and wiser than you were when you were 21. Trust yourself more to know when deception is present. You are experienced and will know the signs. You will be fine.
2006-11-20 21:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by moire1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men are bad or cheat . they are some good ones don't judge all men by your ex. i when out with someone for six year and did not feel happy a lot of it but stayed for the kid found out he had been cheating on me and left. did not have a boy friend for 5 years. started to learn how to drive and got on well with my driving instructor we talk to each other a lot about thinks that happened in owe past relationship and became good friend for about a year then we both told each other we like each other we have been together for 2 years and are very happy so give it a go not all men are bad. good luck x
2006-11-20 21:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right, and the person, you will just BE. Don't worry. Healing takes time. More time for some than others. Your heart will tell you when it is time to love again, and your actions towards the opposite sex will change also, so they will know you are ready for their advances.
2006-11-20 21:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change it. Keep on thinking with your head. When you find your right guy he will be there for ever.
2006-11-20 21:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELP IS AT HAND.
GO FOR PROFESSIONAL COUNSELLING. THAT IS UR ONLY HOPE............
2006-11-20 21:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sarang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋