sorry my silly question, but....?

Question

I sometimes read magazine or paper says that 75 % of men (husband) have ever (or will have) had affair.

do you think it's true ?

My husband as well in the future?

how can I prevend ?

and then, how can I feel and understand he's done ?

Answer 1

Not a silly question - yep it is true most unhappy men do cheat. Unfortunately, sex is what men need if you do not take care of him this way then he will go else where. Women cheat too. You can not prevent anyone from doing anything the only person you can prevent from anything is you, yourself and you. No one else. Hopefully, Your husband to be will be done with other girls/women when he marries you. It is all with trust, as you court your future husband you will know if you both have the same values and goals and only then will you know if he is the one for you. Listen to Dr. Laura on KFI 640 to find a station near you go to www.drlaura.com, She has lots of callers asking similar questions. not only will you learn from her answers but from others mistakes. Cheating is a big issue but worring about it before it happends or not, you'll never be happy. Get to know yourself, be confident and believe in yourself then, you will know who you want to trust in your life. good luck.

Answer 2

I don't think you can ever prevent it from happening, no matter what he may tell you after the fact. Once a cheater always a cheater comes to mind here. From personal experience, I know that it will just continue regardless of how much he says he's sorry and he'll never do it again. The thing that ended our marriage was when he actually got a girl he was cheating with pregnant. We divorced, he married her, and she thought all was well, and kept telling me she trusted him and he really loved her and all the usual defense type things. Two months after they were married, he got another girl pregnant. Not all men are cheaters, but if you have one that has cheated in the past, chances are he's still cheating.

Answer 3

I am afraid this is true. Some men always cheat and once they do they are no longer worth staying with! You cannot do anything about it since cheating is rarely about the wife. It is about the morals and character of the husband. You cannot change a person ....so make sure you pick the right guy. If you don't be prepared for a life of misery!

Answer 4

The magazine or paper you read was from a survey that was done in one country only, and in each country and family the values are different, if you live in a community that os prone to affairs then it is possible that your husband could have had an affair, if not then i think that your husband respects you and his culture and wouldn't do that. one other thing, you shouldn't always believe what you read in thepaper about survey's without being realistic about it and always remember that when a survey is conducted it is conducted in one country, not world wide.

Answer 5

I think it should be kept in mind other possibilities. Would it be possible that these men perhaps cheated as a kid in highschool? Also, consider how they get these statistics. What some people consider as cheating, what other don't. If I were you I wouldn't worry about that. There are so many scary percentages out there, but they are hardly accurate. I think that if you worry too much about him cheating, you might just bring it upon yourself. Sort of like those parents who keep their kids on such tight leashes to keep them from rebelling that they end rebelling for sure, and it's pretty ugly (that's debatable, but I've found that with all the kids I've known it's true). So if you love your husband, and he loves you, just be happy in that.

Answer 6

Well don't go into statistics. My dear if thats the case with your husband in future then there's nothing you can do to stop it. It wil be his fault not yours. I'm sure you know better that what kind of a person your guy is and if he tries to go somewhere else then maybe something is wrong in your relationship. I really feel that the saying is true...... If you love someone set him free. If he comes back to you then he's yours if he doesn't then he never was

Answer 7

It's not a silly question.I have read that 50% of marriages end in divorce,but life is a gamble,nothing is guaranteed.If you feel in your heart that you love him and trust him,then you get married.If you have doubts about him,then you don't.If you find that after you are married that he cheats on you,then the two of you decide what to do.My husband knows that if he cheated,it would be over for us.I have more respect for myself than to put up with that or be with someone who obviously does not love me.If you have doubts,walk out.You will only end up fighting all the time if this is on your mind.

Answer 8

I don't know if that is true, but all youcan do is work at the marriage and keep each other happy

Communication is the key, if you have any issues you need to discuss and talk about them with each other. Don't take each other for granted and if you feel that things within the relationship aren't working, don't look for sex outside the relationship. If you feel that you have to do that you should end things first.

Answer 9

sure, we had a secret Santa at paintings ..and that i substitute into to get a present for this dude. nicely, i thought i could be humorous and went to Spencer's interior the Mall and acquired a pretend lotto value ticket for 100k and that i additionally bought some real scratch offs and positioned all of them in an envelope at the same time. nicely, it began off ok and then he scratched the pretend one in front of all and sundry....next element i be attentive to...he screams jumps up and down and starts off crying and all and sundry runs interior the room and yells too! This went on for a a million/2 hour then somebody finally study the back of the value ticket and is says "redeem at your momma's abode" .....then, he and others went on a conflict direction to be certain who did it...I slipped out the back door. (Thank God it substitute into secret Santa)

Answer 10

If a flower blooms everybody will enjoy the beauty....
in general Male looks good..I mean to say in animals,...
But For Male its female looks so beauty than its beauty..

So every Man and woman have affair from child hood but its the mentality to take in a positive or in a negative manner ie we can say LOVE ,SEX feelings,Affairs,Infactuation,Friendship etc..

If you are going to marry make your moto in +ve than thinking this silly things it will make ur life happy...