How do I get him back?

Question

I love him so much but I didn't feel appreciated enough as we would get together only when he wanted to or when he wants to have sex or when am taking him out. He told me he loved me just before I split with him and that makes me wonder whether I did the right thing coz he's gone quiet on me. I miss him and I don't know how to tell him without sounding desperate and confused

Answer 1

He didnt seem to treat you very well hun, you obviously had problems within the relationship, did you try telling him how you felt or did you just split up with him without discussing how he made you feel?
If you want him back then you need to talk to him but this time make sure that you tell him how you feel, take control a little.
If he only wants you back on the same terms as you had before then it's obvious that he is just using you hun.
Try talking , but it does sound like he was using you a little.
Dont let him rule when you do things, be brave , ask for what you want when you want it, if he says no then cut your losses and find someone who truely appreciates you.
Good luck, hope all works out ok for you.

Answer 2

Do you know that it is much easier to run back to what you had and continue with the same style relationship,than sort out the pain and loneliness that is new to you now after being with the partner you had for a period of time.
No matter how long we are with people,it takes only a short time to get use to being with some-one,and an age to get over them and be independent and alone again.
You obviously didn`t feel what you thought you did,or you would have continued the relationship and both would have worked out anything necessary to keep it there if you both wanted it.
You should never return to something that didn`t work as it is not going to work if you both didn`t give it a serious try to save it.
You will most probably disregard any advise (as many do) and go back to him.
9 out of 10 people prefer what they know and rather than starting something fresh and unknown.

Answer 3

Walk away, it might be hard at first BUT BELIEVE ME it gets easier. If you carry on with this guy the pain will only get harder as you'll end up having sex and not knowing if he really wants you or not. If he never appreciated you before he won't in the future.
You deserve better and you will get better, it's a big world out there and he is a very small part of it. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Confused here.... You did not feel appreciated and by the sounds of it he was using you too - so why do you want him back? Him telling he loves you is hardly enough basis for a happy, healthy relationship. Take this opportunity to really think about what you want from a relationship and another human being. In the long run not feeling appreciated and only seeing someone in their own terms does not make for a long and contented relationship. Good luck

Answer 5

Listen, u might have fallen for this guy and now u are taking on a role that ONLY a man should take. Have dignity and remember this: If you let something go and it returns, it is yours forever

Answer 6

Why would you want to get back with someone who was obviously using you? Do you like to get used? If so, then getting him back will be easy: just call him and ask what HE would like to do this weekend.
I believe you deserve better though/

Answer 7

NEVER GO BACK!! you will meet someone else soon remember you split for a reason.

Answer 8

walk away if he has gone quiet on you then just leave it he would try and get you back if he wanted.

Answer 9

ei sweetie...you deserve better than being a freaking toy, trophy gf, or a slot and sex machine!

Answer 10

kitten he is fooling around with u