Tradidtionally....?

Question

When you begin planning a wedding, what do people normally start planning first?

A: The Gowns and Tuxedos?
B: The place where the ceremony and reception will be held?
C: The invites and bachelor/bachelorette parties?
D: The destination of the honeymoon?
E: The wedding party?
F: Gift registry and food?
G: Decorations?

Is it normal for the groom-to-be to begin planning the bachelor party from the very beginning?

Answer 1

The first thing you need to do is set your budget!! Don't go into a vendor meeting without an idea of how much you can afford to spend.

Once you have your budget, you can choose your attendants and begin writing up your guests list. The number of guests will depend on your budget so don't skip that step!

Next is: Location, location, location!!! Some locations will book 12 months in advance while other only 6-8 months...if you have your heart set on a location-go for it!! Don't wait until someone else snatches up your dream wedding location!

The next thing you need to worry about are the other vendors...photographer, videographer, caterer and entertainment. These are going to be the next ones who book up quickly.

After you have those booked, then look for a florist, baker for the cake and any lighting or rentals you are going to have...Make your life easy and pick a theme or colors and stick with those!! It will be easier for you to make decisions when vendors come to you with ideas.

You need to order and send out your save-the-date cards (optional) about 8-9 months before your wedding...invites go out 6 weeks before the wedding, but order them early in case something goes wrong and they have to be sent back.

Let the bridesmaids and groomsmen deal with the bridal shower and bachelor/bachelorette parties...a few less things for both of yu to worry about!!

My best advice would be to hire a wedding planner...a lot of people see "planner" and take it to the extreme. We can help with planning, if we are asked but we mostly handle logistics and concepts. We are more of a wedding "coach" if you will. It is an expense that should be planned for...you can't hit the rewind button on the planning process, so make it easy for yourself and start with one from the beginning.

Answer 2

ha ha ha, well I guess your fiance is just excited for his party.... the first things of course to do is SET THE DATE... once you have done that, then you find the ceremony and reception site... because there will be no wedding with out those...all the other stuff is secondary.... you should go for your dress and your bridesmaid dresses right away also, because my dress took 5 months to make. The tuxes can usually be done a month before the wedding. The gift registry I would do about two months befroe you plan on having showers that way, whatever oyu register is still in the stores when everyone goes shopping. GOod Luck.

Answer 3

IMHO, it's not normal for the groom to be to be more excited about the bachelor party than the wedding. Don't expect him to really care what color the bridesmaids dresses are or even where you're registering. My only thought is that wedding planning can be overwhelming to many guys (okay, all guys) and the bachelor party might be the one thing he feels he understands/has control over.

When I planned my wedding (and when my sister planned hers) we started by choosing a date, selecting a location for the ceremony and reception. Then we talked about who we wanted in the wedding party. Theknot.com was a great resource with a really helpful checklist.

Congrats on your engagement and good luck!

Answer 4

Of course, this all depends on where you live - size of town or city.
Usually you have to start with talking with the minister or priest, to book a date, and to arrange pre-marital counselling. In some cities, you have to book places a year in advance, so it is never too soon. Next step is booking the reception site and caterer, then the band for the dance. During this time, you should be considering who you want for your attendants, and ask them once you have a date confirmed. Start looking for a gown and tuxedos, as well as invitations.

Answer 5

1. date and venue
2. Wedding party
3. Gowns and tuxedos
4. Food
5. invites/gifts
6. Decorations
7. Honeymoon
8. Parties

Answer 6

Budget, date, availability of where the wedding will be held and the reception and rough costs (include rough estimate for clothes, flowers, honeymoon, no of guests), then revise budget and date till all match then start detailing. If you don't know roughly what you can afford at the outset and what restrictions that will impose on your day, you will be disappointed if the plans you want can not be paid for and you have to downsize. Have a wonderful day!

Answer 7

We are in the planning process.....
we started with the date,
religious ceremony or not - big or small reception.
we talked about friends and family participating,
the budget and was was affordable and what is extreme, we also began a joint savings account,
the colors and theme which we havent finalized
and we began looking at venues.....

now we need:
picking a venue and Church, also attending classes (we are catholic so we have requirements),
photographer, caterer and other vendors to decide on,
invitations,
gowns & tuxedos including ours
Registry
honeymoon
and finally, saying I do!...and live happily ever after = )

Answer 8

Wedding Party or Locations.

Location, wedding party and officiant should be the first things booked, so you know you for sure have them on the date you want.

Answer 9

When I began planning my wedding, my fiance and I first came up with a date and a guest list.Then we checked to see if our venues were open on those dayus.Next we decided how much money we were going to spend. Then all the other stuff came together.

Answer 10

Well I would suggest starting with the gift registry since it should be already underway. Secondly ofcourse would be the divorce lawers.
btw I hope that's not your wedding you're planning. you're too cute to take off the market ;)