I used to have feelings for a friend, our friendship started to fade when he knew about it. After almost a year i have moved on and have a bf.A girl who is my friend has been telling me bad things that my ex-friend said about me, i confided in her and told her how hurt i was, she told me things that even now hurt me, i could'nt help to cry everytime, i started to feel really angry,i confronted him, he lashed against her calling her a gossip. in return she justified herself by telling him that she told me all so that i would finally get over him, she also told him about all the times a cryied for him, i didnt want him to know that, i feel betrayed by her because i dont see why she needs to give me away so that he wont think she is a gossip, he has proved not to be our friend, now he thinks i am still hung up on him she made it sound like my life was a wreck without him. am i in the right here? did she have a reason to tell him about all the crap i went through?
2006-11-20 20:12:15 · 6 answers · asked by saminita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are totally right and you have every right to be hurt and angry...she is not your true friend. and dont care what your ex friend thinks about you, just move on with your life...you know how they say "we all learn from mistakes". just choose your friends carefully next time....and dont feel bad, some people just dont have a life of their own!
2006-11-20 20:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that she intentionally set out to HURT you in any way. even though you may not be "hung up" on him, she has seen you cry about it, and for you to have went and confronted him, then subconciously, you do still care, or everything she said would have went in one ear and out the other. the past is that, the past. dont live back there, they call it the present for a reason, its a gift that we all take for granted sometimes. if he has proved to not be a friend, then dont give him the satisfaction of ruining your friendship with her. some people like to talk, im one of them ( if you cant tell;)) and she was just trying to make you feel better about your situation. instead of being mad, talk to her, let her know that somethings are better left unsaid,and that if you share something else in confidence with her, you expect it to stay there. i do see where you would be mad though, but try to see from her point of view too!she made a mistake! if yall are friends, it will all work out! good luck!
2006-11-21 04:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by jcmodelchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't know when to keep their mouths shut! No, she had no reason to betray your trust in her. You told her all of this stuff in confidence and she should have kept this to herself. Anyway why would she tell you all of this stuff after you moved on with another guy? She should have told your ex friend to quit badmouthing someone who was not there to defend herself. I do not see anything that was accomplished by causing you so much pain by telling you all of these hurtful things. I would stay away from both of them since they sound like nothing but heart ache and trouble.
2006-11-21 04:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she did not have to tell him about all that. You trusted her and she betrayed you becos if you wanted him to know all that you would have told him yourself. I think she did that to get more closer him. Please know who you trust. She doesn't sound like a very good friend and someone to trust
2006-11-21 04:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Fat Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like your so called friend if you still think of her that way, like to create con flick. get some new friends. she sold you out. and a true friend wouldn't have told you those things anyway. she'd be glad you are with your new bf. but why she did it is she jealous of you.
2006-11-21 04:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop both of them. they both sound like messed up people.
2006-11-21 04:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by DAYNA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋