I really need help.... We fight about everything and never get along. Every time we even encounter, we always find something to fight about. I tried talking to her, and I tried avoiding her. She always wants me to do the exact oppsite, and hates how I dress. Now I think I hate her..... I need some advice from people who already went through the puverty/ adolesent thing....
2006-11-20 18:55:21 · 12 answers · asked by The_star_wars_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother hated me when I was a teen(or so I thought). Now, she is one of my best friends. Give it time and try to be tolerable, because she is only interested in your best interest. The dressing thing though, I would not budge, because everyone needs to discover their own identity. Go get a tattoo, she won't care what you are wearing then. She'll be too upset at the fact that you got some ink done. Piercings are even better, because if you decide you don't want it anymore you can just take it out.
2006-11-20 19:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't hate your mom...trust me. Me and my father go through the same thing. No matter how little we see eachother we always find somethin to fight about. I know exactly wat your going through. In the heat of an arguement, you may feel that you really hate your mom...but you dont. Hate is the opposite of love and you love your mom right? I know that it is much easier to remember the bad moments over the good...but try to think back to some good times you two shared...and you will see that you really do love her...and just at some moments it doesnt feel that way. This may be a stage you two are going through or this may be the relationship you to share...either way...hate is such a strong word...and no matter what...words should never lead you to hate your mother. No matter how much you argue remember there is no love like a mother's love. So cherish the moments you to have...good or bad...because life is short...and your mother loves you so much, rather or not you can see it!
2006-11-20 19:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by nazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard being a teen and its hard being a parent.
sometimes, we, as parents, are trying to stop our children from making some of the mistakes or bad choices that we made as teens.
but, you see? we cant come right out and tell you what we did because we think that you will think to yourself... well if my mother did that then i can too. so we end up being over protective or we argue about something totally unrelated because we have these fears that we feel we cant share with our kids.
bottom line for me as the parent? i thought if i could spare my child the pain of not making the same mistakes i was giving my child something better than what i had. well that just isn't true. as a human being you are entitled to make your own mistakes.
i hope what ive said makes some sense to you and that you can see your mother in a different light now. maybe you can approach her in a new way and see her as human as well.
my oldest daughter dyed her hair every color under the sun. i didnt like it, after all she wasnt looking at herself, i was looking at her. i was the one who had to see it. i accepted it as her way to express who she is and chose to have battles over things that would be more harmful to herself. she dressed funky and weird, all i asked of her is that she express respect for her body at the same time and not go out looking like she was putting herself up for sale. she understood me and respected how i felt too...because we were open and honest about it.
she said she hated me too when she was a teen and now we can talk about all those things because she has matured and understands me a little more now that shes 23. she doesnt hate me....
2006-11-20 21:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mothers are hard they don't mean to be but so are teens. learn how to communicate even if you don't agree is it really that big of deal everyone has opinions but should everyone argue them all the time.when she gives you advice say thanks mom i will consider what you have said just because she gives you advice doesn't mean you have to take it.most moms just worry alot.and do want whats best for you.and maybe sometimes you could just sit and talk to her without arguing just let her know you love her and you don't want to argue anymore.compromises have to be apart of any family. you both have to be willing to give some. after all she is the only mom you will ever have.love her now listen to her and then decide later if you want to take her advice or not.life is to short to make mountains out of mole hills. try and give your mom a break too.
2006-11-20 19:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by kathy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fight with my mom sometimes but now she is my best friend. so it is normal to have fights but try to relax and understand your mother, try to be a friend and make her understand you in a soft way without fighting.
Trust me she is the best person in the world who love you and care about you!
I hope that i had help you! Contact me again to know if it works and best wishes of having a good life with your MOM.
2006-11-20 21:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by lalau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every mom is always worrying about their children doing anything. Hence, the argument start. Talk to her and try to made her understand. That is the only solution. Arguing with her will made matters worst...
2006-11-20 18:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of u also need 2 accept answers from others ,who knows thye might have good advice.2nd ,try and be open with ur mom,and see what happens from there.
2006-11-20 18:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you and she should slow down. It's puberty or whatever. She lived through it and you will to. Please offer to talk. Slow her down and calm down. You can't talk about scary stuff like sex if you're both excited and aggressive. She is guilty and so are you. She might be less pissed if you make her feel like you are listening. You also might want to listen You might find your answer.
2006-11-20 19:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by solapine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for teen girls to fight with their mom. It means you are ready to leave the house and go be with men.
2006-11-20 18:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by devil's advocate 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't hate ur mom all she wants is whats best for u and just be thankful shes around because my mom died six months ago so just be thankful!!
2006-11-20 19:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by ghetto fabolous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋