It was the first time in my life that I ever heard my father cry?

Question

He doesn't know.He's a decent, hardworking man,a bit introverted and very proud.He raised us by himself,and never remarried.I don't know what's going on.I can't ask.What should I do?What would you do in this situation?

Answer 1

He sounds like a guy who's not comfortable being vulnerable or talking about emotions and probably has a hard time with it, especially without a wife to talk to. It's common with dads, and they don't like to seem 'weak' in front of their kids, so he may not be upfront about it if you ask him directly.

I can think of two approaches. This is one I'd use with my own dad: Approach him casually and ask him what's up, and gently prod him towards any major upsetting situations he might be facing.

The other approach is to be serious (and don't start emotionally) and tell him you can see that things aren't all well with him and ask him to share with you.

Whatever way you choose, just let him know that you care and are worried about him, and that he can turn to you if he needs to talk things through rather than bottle them up inside.

Ultimately, it's his choice of whether he's comfy with opening up. If he's stubborn and refuses to, you could gently and tactfully suggest a therapist or counsellor, or just a relevant helpline that offers anonymous counselling.

Answer 2

Hello well we all think we are never gonna hear our father cry and get shocked if we do land up hearing them cry...well I think at one time or another in a mans life there will come a time where he will cry ...do not be shocked as a matter in fact its a good thing he did cry...crying is very healthy for a person it releases what ever is bothering them a bit...I think the best thing that you may want to do is ask your dad if something is wrong and if there is anything you can do to help ...and if you cannot ask him maybe you have a grandmother or someone close you can share this with that is also close to your dad and than they can talk and see if things are okay for your dad ...its okay to cry no one should ever be to proud to shead a tear ...you take care and do not worry too much things will work out

Answer 3

Maybe while your at school\work, you could leave him a note, that way it's not so "interigational" if that makes any sense :) I know how you feel. You can't just walk up to him and ask him, even though that seems best. One time me and my very best friend got into a fight. We were mad at each other and never spoke to each other for about a week. We were stuck together though in Anchorage. So, amazingly, we actually worked out our friendship through notes! Now were buds again and feel stupid about the whole thing. Or you could try what the guys said below.

Answer 4

Being alone sucks, I couldn't even imagine after recieveing the greatest gift God gives (a family) and then losing part of it. It wouldn't be the hard work that would break me it would be the fact that once you lose part of your heart it's hard to get it back. Just do your father a favor and try not to be a burden, but help him out spend time with him. Even though some parts of life are tough doesn't mean everything should be.

Answer 5

Well, if I saw my dad crying I would go up to him and hug him and tell him I love him. Then I would ask him what's wrong. I wouldn't pressure him though. If he says "nothing" or something like that, I wouldn't keep asking him. If he does talk to me then I would listen and comfort him. I would also tell him that I'm always there for him. If he needs to talk to me he can. My dad says he is always there for me and so I'm always there for him. It might make your dad happy if he sees how much you are concerned and how much you want to help make him happy. Don't be afraid to talk to him. I used to never talk to my dad cuz I was afraid he'd get mad at me. But he told me he's a great listener. So now, he is the one I talk to. I've learned that communication is the key. Just do what you feel is best for the both of you. Listen to your heart. It is usually right. Good luck.

Answer 6

He may be to proud to want help but go to him. Ask him if there is anything you can do foor him. Just tell him you can tell hes having a hard time right now and explain you will always be there for him like he has been for you. The most important thing is to let him know you care. That alone will hel him.

Answer 7

It's never easy seeing the man that raised you cry but he is human.He needs you now. You've depended on him for years now its your turn to offer a shoulder. Hug him tell him you love him and do something special just for him so that he knows the sacrifices he made for you kids was appreciated.He sounds very alone why don't you try and find him a date.

Answer 8

Just give him a good long hug and tell him that you love him and will always be with him as a daughter.

Ask him whats wrong. Cause if he tells you then it will ease his mind. He will also feel happy there is someone to talk to about his problem.

Just ask him. He is your father so be open and talk. Think he is going through bad things. Just give him confidence.

Good Luck

Answer 9

Try sing Elvis presley song [ Are u lonesome tonight]
: Are u lonesome tonight, do u miss me tonight, are u sorry we drifted apart,
Is your memory being stray, to a bright summer day, When i kiss u and called u sweetheart. Do the chairs in your palour seem empty and bare, do u gazed at your doorsteps and picture me there. Is your heart filled with pain,Shall i come back again, tell me dear are u lonesome tonight.

This is what i will do to let him unleashed the pain and sorrows in his heart.
Then comfort him in ways u think u can do as a daughter after u understand his pain and sorrows

Answer 10

well I would take him for walk, somewhere quite and talk to him about , but bring the topic up slow , and say dad , I don't mean to pry , but something really bothering me , and then just tell him . but really be there for him. sometimes when a man is alone for along time he tends to get depressed and feel that he will never meet anyone again , so be there for him .