HELP
I am my mother's carer as for years since i could remember my mum has been sick with CFS?
Six mths ago I noticed a change in my mum with speech,memory problems and sleeping as well as having no energy.
My mum then fell over for no reason that I saw and had a stay in hospital for a week with fitting and other injuries.
Since all that my mum has had consitent headaches as well as ongoing pain which leaves her breathless and so moody and tired?
then I notice her hair thining and mum's hair all over the place.
At last I got her to the doctors and they stunnned us both when they told mum and I she had cancer that matches her CFS sypmtons which were similar?
They done all the tests and mum's treatment will bide time but only to make her comfy so now mum has refused treatments then gets told she has 5 years to live as long as she gets no infections,then it could be 6mths?
How do i watch my mum die?
I wish to fullfill mum's dreams like we shared but she is suffering so much?
2006-11-20 18:01:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
P.S
I havent been to school since July 06 but am returning to school next year to complete year 9 and 10.
My mother wants to go home back to QLD were my brothers are and my Aunty but how do I tell my mum they arent going to be there?
My Aunty is moving to W.A and my brothers well lets say they are to busy.
My mum has dreams and I want to know how do I make a wish list from the easyest to the hardest?
Does any one know what hospice is?
We cant afford nursing?
Cancer foundation have sent me heaps of info but my mum told to only read if I need to?
So I just stare at the folder?
How do I get my brothers to except my mum again to?
So many Questions..Sorry
2006-11-20 20:00:45 · update #1
This is a very hard question, and it breaks my heart to just imagine the grief you must being going through, watching your mother die. Sweetheart, as hard as it is Just be there for her as you have been.
All I can say is, tell her how much you love her, and everything you want to say so that there will be no regrets later on. Treasure every moment together.Write down little things she may say that mean something to you.
I believe your mother's dreams has already been fulfilled by having such a loving caring daughter.
Once again I am sorry, and i wish i could say more.
2006-11-20 18:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure where you live, but check into hospice home care. They are nurses that come to your home to help take care of your mom and will make her life more comfortable and as pain-free as possible.
Enjoy every day that you have with her. Put your hope for eternal life in God, and just pray for her comfort & peace of mind.
Please accept my deepest sympathies. I can only imagine what you are she are going through together. Bless you for being such a good daughter.
2006-11-20 19:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,
I don't know how to tell you be brave and believe in god because i don't know English very well but i understand your feelings from this words, when i read this i become mood off and i felt very sad this is my case so i know how you feel bad in this stage, Friend be with your mom always and tell her that you want her presents tell her to have the medicine proper time you complete the the uncompleted works and wish of your mom make her always happy I am sorry friend i feel very sad i cant write no other words my fingers are shivering so sorry....only i can tell you that pray to the god for give back her life you know god can make miracles in life so pray of course i will pray to the god for your moms long life i am sure that your mom become alright OK ,GOD BLESS YOU MY FRIEND.
2006-11-20 18:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a horrifying thing for you and your mother. The best thing to do is be supportive and try to enjoy each other as much as possible. The doctors will do everything they can. I know of people that have pulled through things just like this. Keep the faith and pray to your higher power. Keep a positive attitude, whatever you do try to keep positive. I know this is a hard thing to bare, but keep positive and enjoy your mother as much as possible.
2006-11-20 18:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is suffering and you are suffering also. Talk to your school guidance counselor, your pastor, your friends, and to your mom's doctor to se if they can recommend help for you to get thru this. Bless your sweet heart.
2006-11-20 19:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋