My bf abused me in june coz he saw me dancing with another guy. He broke up n told me im a cheap gurl along with abuses . then he stopped contacting me. But after a month he started contacting through text mesgs. Again not very pleasant mesgs. but now on 14th he again abused me as he kept asking me through text mesgs if i had gone on a date with another guy. But i kept silent and he again abused me through mesgs tht im a prostitute. He told me he wants to slap me n abuse me I mesgd tht i was with my parents n was very sick n not on date with any guy but he didnt believe me n sent abusive mesgs. When next day 2 mesgs were sent by chance to him by me, He abused me n mesgd tht if another mesg i send...he will break my hands n abused me. Why does he abuse me???I replied tht im very much scared of him n to keep away from me. Now he doesnt even look at me considering me to be a cheap gurl . Its been 6-7 days he stopped contacting me. DO U THINK HE WILL MESG OR CONTACT ME AGAIN ???
2006-11-20 17:44:42 · 17 answers · asked by saikiena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like the guy's got some serious issues. If it keep going I suggest you report to police. It's almost the same concept as being bullied in school. If you stand up to him, he will lose his power over you, do not tell him that you're scared of him, and don't let him put you down through abusive terms and language.
And remember, he's your EX now, he has no right to have his nose in your business, let alone say that you were with some other guy.
good luck!
2006-11-20 17:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, Tell a teacher, Tell a friend, Tell law enforcement. Save the text messages for proof! For god sakes stay away from him. Don't answer his calls and don't message him back. The more people that know that this guy is a creep and has laid hands on you the better. He abuses you because he is trying to control you. He abuses you because more than likely he has grown up in a abusive household. He abuses you to make himself feel like a man. Who cares if he looks at you! You deserve better. No person has the right to hit or abuse another person!! Take back your self and get rid of this loser with a quickness before he seriously hurts you!!
He will contact you again and message you again but take your control back and don't give him the time of day!! LOSE HIM!!
2006-11-20 17:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question to you is "why did you keep quiet about all these things?" This is serious, you must let your parents know about this as your boyfriend is abusing you. You should know yourself better than anyone. You are not cheap or prostitute by seeing you dancing with another guy. What is wrong with your boyfriend? If he really care and love you, he will not harm or hurt you. If your boyfriend stopped contacting you or stopped looking at you, I guess its better that way. You must remember that you need to lead your own life, you dont need people like him. You will better off than to be with him.
Its not the end of the world should you move forward alone. There will be other people that you might meet along the way and be happy with. Dont be afraid of what he had messaged you, and at the same time dont bother to answer his message. The more you answer him back, it will make him even happy knowing that you are scared of him. Stand up and move forward without looking backwards, let him see that you still can lead your life despite what he think of you. Nobody is prefect, everybody makes mistakes in our life. Be positive minded and I belive your boufriend wont bother about you anymore.
2006-11-20 18:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if he will contact you again, and i hope that he doesn't he sounds like a real jerk, but best thing too do would just to stick close with your friends and parents, you know people that know your the amazing person that you are, and wont pay any attention to what some guy says of txt on a phone. If anything your friends may even be very helpful and help to solve the problem
2006-11-20 17:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by eternity 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to do is to get help and by that I mean get the police involved, if you have the msgs from him on your phone then thats evidence plus get a restraining order aganist him just to make sure, guys like that are psycho and you dont need that in your life, block him from your phone and his number.
You dont need him and you shouldnt have to go through that. In time you will get over him and hopefully start dating someone new. No one deserves to be abused whether its emotional or not, even harassment like that isnt right.
I hope you get the help you deserve and hope you can recover from this.
2006-11-20 17:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dump that stupid jerk! He absolutely have no right to abuse you that way!
That happened to me too, you know. Worse than yours- my ex-boyfriend slapped me in front of too many people! He wanted me back but I won't let him. By slapping me in front of those people only shows that he don't respect me anymore. The same goes for your bf. Break up with him! You deserve someone better, someone who will cherish and protect you, unlike that ungrateful jerk. You deserve to be happy, girl! Just break up with him. You will never be happy with that guy if he abuses you. If he continues telling you that abusive words, calls and insults you like a common prostitute, then the right thing to do is break up with him. Don't waste your precious tears on that ******. He doesn't deserve you. If he could tell that words to you, that only means he don't trust and respect you. Move on.
If he still bothers you, why don't you try changing numbers?
You deserve to be happy.
2006-11-20 18:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Emz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being emotionally abused by this guy. If he continues to harass you, call the police or ask your mother to. Do not contact him any more and stay away from him -he is mentally ill. He is an abuser of weak woman [girls] and likes to make them scared.
2006-11-20 17:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing. make sur you tell your parents and friends about this.You need their support and protection now. Then file a complaint with the police. After that change your number.If he somehow manages to get the new one and contact you ( which is possible), then keep the police, your parents updated.If you can don't cross paths with him,don't answer his calls and don't reply his msgs, it will only encourage his idiotic behavior.
I think he is a jerk, they are unpredictable,don't let your guard down.
Good luck and i wish you safety
2006-11-20 18:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a boyfriend who saw me kissing a guy on the cheek in a club. and he went up to me and said, how do you like being a whore? i stayed with him for a few months and am still trying to break up with him till this day. i think today will be the day i really want to get rid of him. its not so easy ,, but you may have to report him. or just change ur number??
2006-11-20 18:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your lucky he wont, But I would file a report with the law just in case he is really a sick person and desides to follow through with his plans.
2006-11-20 17:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by mistique1818 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋