does anyone ever feel pressured to have their husband-to-be's sister as a bridesmaid? Even if you hate her guts? Just a general question, not for anything in particular.
2006-11-20 17:16:58 · 18 answers · asked by Pennexx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
thankss for the answers but this was jst kind of a poll.... im 13 im not gonner get married anytime soon! =] great hearing all ur thoughts tho... I'll remember this wen i DO get married =]
2006-11-22 23:48:51 · update #1
I think it should be your best friend
2006-11-20 17:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by twysty 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I went to a marriage the place the groom's sister became the final woman. The groomsmen all wore black suits and he or she stood with them wearing a black gown. i assumed it became somewhat advantageous as they're somewhat on the factor of the different however the bride already had her 2 sisters and ultimate chum as bridesmaids. i've got additionally been to weddings the place there became an uneven style of bridesmaids/groomsmen so i do no longer think of it would be counted in case you secure her as one extra bridesmaid. or you could desire to contain her in some different way. do no longer supply her a menial activity like manning the centred visitor e book (human beings recommend this each and all the time yet I consistently think of it would be so uninteresting having to stand via the centred visitor e book greeting a superb purchase of human beings you could desire to no longer additionally recognize), yet an significant place such because of the fact the MC on the reception (asserting the speeches, first dance, reducing of the cake, etc.), if she is musical she could desire to sing, or she could desire to envision a poem or verse throughout the time of the ceremony. yet maybe attempt the waters first with those strategies. If there is tricks that she needs to be a bridesmaid she could desire to be upset in case you ask her to do something else. As for asking your friends now: this is a private view yet i might carry off somewhat till you artwork out the different roles are and what place you will ask your destiny SIL to play. otherwise she could desire to view regardless of place you supply her as something you in basic terms gave her in view which you probably did no longer prefer her to be a bridesmaid. it is likewise good to confirm that the human beings you ask are prepared to devote, would be obtainable etc. till now you ask. good success!
2016-10-17 07:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know my sister-in-law-to-be very well before I got married, but yes - I felt obligated to have her as a bridesmaid. I probably would have asked her even if I had disliked her. It seemed necessary to start out in the family on the right foot. And now that I know her better, I'm glad she was in our wedding party! But the position of maid-of-honor was definitely reserved for my best friend - not my fiance's sister!
2006-11-20 17:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its YOUR wedding and you need to do what YOU want to do.
I am having my fiance's sisters as bridesmaids but I really wanted them in the wedding and like both of them a lot.
If you don't think they will be an asset to your "big day" have them doing a reading or sometihng that way they are still involved just not in such a large way.
2006-11-21 02:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by CityChic919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think many things are relevant. I believe you should have his sister in the wedding party.Its a nice family gesture. have your best friend as a maid of honor.If I was you I would start working on reconciling the relationship with her. Trust me in 10 years from your wedding probably your sister in law will be one of the not so many firends helping you.Happens to all of us.So do the right thing...
2006-11-20 18:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Donna M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is totally happening to me. I don't like his sister, but was pressured from his family to do it. I was in all my brother's weddings, and it was wonderful, but now my sister-in-laws are in my wedding too, and the four of us actually get along. We are civil to each other, I'm in my 20's and she's a spoiled brat of 15. I'm putting her at the end of the line and not slighting her, but I'm not really including her and her mom (whom I don't like either) in wedding planning.
2006-11-24 01:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance knows you don't like his sister I would assume he wouldn't apply too much pressure. If anything put her at the end of the line and hopefully not have to worry about her too much. If it is important to your fiance and he wants her in the wedding I think it is fair that he gets to have his relatives be a part of it.
2006-11-20 17:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by viscomunderground 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to at least start off on the right foot with his family by including them in the wedding. If you so dislike his family members maybe marrying him is not a good idea.
2006-11-20 17:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think family tends to pressure us to do that. I wasn't my sister-in-laws bridesmaid and felt slighted but we don't hate each other. It's a nice gesture to start off entering someone's family though
2006-11-20 17:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's just rude not to! Your mother in law will probably hate you for it. I know my mom can't stand my brothers fat wife for her lousy decision not to include me or my sisters because she said "I'm too short and fat. I can't have tall, thin bridesmaids" Now, personally, I didn't care and would have said no but, that's besides the point. It's my mom who is more upset. I'm simply amused by her excuse.
2006-11-20 21:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i am having my fiances sister as my bridesmaid, but then again we get along. If you do not get along, do not do it. you are suppost to have friends and family members you get along with. then again if you don't have her as one and end up getting along in the future you will feel bad. Its your call, don't listen to what anyone else says. Its your day.
2006-11-21 01:24:55 · answer #11 · answered by stacydeets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋