ive been with my gf for 3 months and she says she wants to go further if you know what i mean but im happy with what we have and i told her and she said im a wimp im 16 and so is she how can i explain that something like that should be special? im having trouble.
2006-11-20 17:13:16 · 25 answers · asked by jasonpoohead 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her how much you love her and you dont want to rush it cook for her just to prove you do love her and hope it works out. your not a wimp because you dont feel like rushing most guys dont think about that. its special and im glad you relise that
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2006-11-20 17:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥~*~♥ЌẮ§€¥♥~*~♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful to hear this type of question, I think it's awesome that you are trying to keep things at the innocent stage. Tell her you are saving yourself for that special time when you feel right about going further. Sex changes everything and the truth is you will have so much time in your life for that later on. Sex can ruin a relationship too, believe me I know. If she truly loves you, she will respect that, but you need to tell her that you are not rejecting her you just want to keep things just the way they are, "happy and sweet." Honey, I think it's wonderful that you are waiting, keep it up.... it takes a real man to admit something like this.
2006-11-21 01:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you're a rare find!! Nobody should pressure anybody into something like that, especially when it would be illegal (!!!!!! at least here in Australia anyway). She is young and hasn't learnt to respect other people's beliefs and values I guess. Calling you a wimp as well...makes it sound like sex is an extreme sport or something!
Anyway, stand your ground because if you believe it is special and you want to wait, that's your choice and she needs to learn to respect that. If she doesn't, let her go (as hard as that is, I know).
Good on you man! I wish there were more guys like you around my age group
2006-11-21 01:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by BluLettice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The direct approach is the best way and it sounds like you've done that. Sounds like she's "been around" a bit. And if you want to wait and want it to be special then that's the way it should be. Don't let her or anyone else pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.
2006-11-21 01:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always stay true to yourself, if you go through with it you will end up resenting her, and it will ultimately not work out. Just explain your true feelings to her, if she is offended, or annoyed just know that she is not right for you. Just because your legally allowed to doesn't mean you should, 16 is young, are you sure you can even handle the responsibilities and emotional impact of having sex?
If's shes the right one for you she will understand, and if not your better off to go your seperate ways and find someone who shares your values.
2006-11-21 01:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't need a reason to go further. You like her and all, and you want to have things to still look forward to. Sex ruins a good relationship if you do it too soon, believe me. You could also try telling her you want to see if there will still be something if you keep it where you are.
2006-11-21 01:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by buhxonxyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't accept your decision to abstain from having sex then maybe you should think about taking some time apart from one another. You two are too young to think about having sex. You aren't missing anything at sixteen that you can have 4 or 5 years down the road. Plus with all the STD's, HIV/AIDS, PREGNANCY etc. going around...I wouldn't chance it. Enjoy being young, care-free and having not to deal with any real responsibilities.
2006-11-21 01:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by Icky B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her fast as* to calm down and slow down before she ends up with a baby that she isn't mentally or financially ready for. you are doing the right thing, and i applaud you being the "smarter" one in the relationship to realize that sex is special and should be taken seriously. im 23 and i dont even think like you.. what a good boyfriend!
2006-11-21 01:20:28 · answer #8 · answered by apple martini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her "I'm just NOT that into you" LOL JK. Really tell her to get off your back, your ready when your ready and if now isn't the time then leave it alone. It's great that you think it should be special. Maybe you should let me knock some sense into her LOL.
2006-11-21 01:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by April C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you than she will understand your feelings and wait until you are ready. If she continues to raise this issue and pressure you than you should dump her and find another girl who respects your wishes and opinions on this matter. Concentrate on school work.
2006-11-21 01:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋