I am 23 and the guy im interested in is 36.....is this ok? how can I be sure he isn't just interested in s**?
2006-11-20 17:10:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 25 and I've dated several older men. I find that for the most part, they are more equal maturity-wise. However, you still find all the same problems with them - they will tell you what you want to hear, use you, abuse you, and lie to you -just like men your own age or younger, and unfortunately, they are usually better at it, having had so many more years of practice!
That being said, when you finally do find a decent guy, age won't really be something that you really worry about. The key is to find a decent guy. If this fellow really loves you, and treats you with respect, then the age difference is no big deal, as long as you are prepared to deal with the fact that he has a much bigger history than you. If he has ex-wives, ex-serious girlfriends, or craziness in his past, this might be the real problem for you.
Basically, judge him on his personality, lifestyle, and how he treats you and others. If you are worried that he is just interested in sex, hold out on it. Don't sleep with any man until you are sure he isn't going to treat you like you are disposable. The longer he sticks around, the more you will get to know him, and the more confident you will feel that he wasn't just looking for an easy lay.
Good luck!
2006-11-20 17:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by p_i_turtle_sanders 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend, Its not question of how old you both are. Its how much do u know each other and the understanding level between you. If he is 36 then is he married and if not then what was the cause? i am just giving my watch points. See when you like him then according to you everything seems to be positive but you have to see some negative points. think on them and find out the solution whether you can overcome them, if you are happy what solutions you find then go ahead no need to ask any one here.
2006-11-21 13:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by slimshady3in 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
The age is defiantely not a problem here. I suggets you give this a try. It might work for you. Dont go in for s** at present. You have to know him better frist. See how he behave with you, how he treates you and also if you could just do a check on him (married /single) some times you know they dont really tell this until later so please find out this from before. You definatley dont want to get involved with a married guy.
If everthing is ok just let things happen on its own it my turn out into a beautiful relationship which ends up in a happy marriage.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-11-21 01:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much of age difference as such. But the basic issue is your attraction towards him. If it is true, sincere and most importatntly mutual in all respects, there should not be any problems. In fact, the details are not adequate enough. It is not clear whether it was love at first sight or you had enough of bad experiences in your own age group and therefore turned to the man.
Before you judge him, you must judge the reasoning for your own getting attracted towards him. If it fair enough and you are sure you are in love which is reciprocated, there should not be a doubt in your mind.
As far as his motives are concerned, if you handle the date with full confidence & control, you would come to know about his intentions.
So believe in yourself & go ahead.
2006-11-21 04:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every guy and girl is interested in sex whether or not they make it obvious. However, if you think that the age difference is an issue, even now, then you shouldn't try to pursue anything with him. It would be a waste of time.
2006-11-21 01:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by Icky B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages with more difference in age happens but the problem lies in the mental setup of your age and his age. Anyway you can know if he is interested only in having s** with you if you see that whenever you are spending time with him he somehow wants to touch you! or he always turns the conversation on such a topic that it leads to what you are afraid of.
2006-11-21 01:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by APU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not a bad age difference. but i would be cautious bout what hes wanting. i mean hes alot older and was he married before and have kids? because if he was are you willing to take on a package deal? and with him being older and say things go great and you get married are you sure at his age he wants to have any kids. your still young and may want some so there's going to be problems. just make sure of his intentions before you do anything.
2006-11-21 01:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DOESN'T matter u r interested in him,important is he intersted in u,cos havin sex is nt the only thing,so try 2 evaluate lov frm his side 4u and ask him if he wants 2 carry the relatn 4 long oherwis no need 2 hav only sex and sex
2006-11-21 01:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by love guru 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes thats ok and u should put off having sex with him 4 a while and see how he reacts to it
2006-11-21 01:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Beautiful1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead. All the best.
2006-11-21 04:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by Meeto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋