After over 6 years, what is he hiding from me? What is it in his life he is afraid for me to find out? I know where almost all of his family members live but not him. I know their names and phone numbers too. I know what his apartment looks like, what city he lives in, where he works and his only childs name.
2006-11-20 17:08:12 · 18 answers · asked by dnisey64 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've met a few of his family members face to face. I've been to 2 of their homes, not in. I know for sure his has a good job. Just long hours due to the type of work he does.
2006-11-20 17:19:07 · update #1
I wouldn't chalk up the quick to throw insult "Cause he's a loser." Obviously you see something in someone who you've been with 6 years. All guys, myself included, hide demons that we don't want exposed. Don't be pushy about it. Don't push him away. Give him space and talk it out with him. Say, "Hey, you know. I want things to be better. I want us to communicate a little better than we do." Don't freak him out by it. Just play it smooth. Surely there are things you hide from HIM as well. Maybe not the same types of things, but things nonetheless. Maybe in a past relationship he's cheated on his girlfriend and feels that if information like that was leaked, you'd trust him less. Us men have our hang-ups, too. We just explain them differently. Good luck, and I sincerely hope your situation gets better.
2006-11-20 17:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all from experience I can admit sometimes a past is one that we'd like to forget a past full of hurt or mistakes or pain.
To revel upon your curiosity's with him not knowing is I think immoral Its against the relationship code its his right to his privacy so you should stop
Snooping is quite hmmm obsessive and if you know all these things what do you intend on doing with this info? Are you aware of the pain and hurt he feels inside.
It is not your place to uncover because you are dating someone you have this right as well.
He will never reveal his cards he just has to really know you, love you, and trust you how dare you pry that deep are you looking to find something so you can leave why?
My guess a bad relationship child born into the situation,
He was abused, mentally or sexually or phsically by someone in his family or he is the one who abused
6 years wow and you now know where he lives I am confused on your last part ?
2006-11-21 01:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Chi-Girli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey! What is it that you are trying to hide from yourself?! If you are afraid to be alone, and are willing to accept much less than what you deserve in a relationship, then acknowledge that it is O.K. to be fearful of being alone. You may be sad for some time, but realize that you are not getting the real thing here. Someone who is hiding so much personal information is someone to be very leery of in regards to your personal safety. I wouldn't trust him on so many levels. I don't know if you believe in a higher power, but it is my belief that God wants you to be happy. You deserve so much more than what this guy is (not) giving to you. You will never be alone because you have God's love in your heart. This is a lesson/test that you can learn and grow from. The real test is to find true happiness within yourself, and you will attract a much greater love. To sum it up in a few words: DITCH HIS A**! Good luck!
2006-11-21 01:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by tatesgr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has a criminal history or married. Go to the state that you're in department of corrections and find out or any state that he's lived in. Also go tot the county's clerk of court website and search the "Official Records" to find out almost anything you want to know about him, if he's married, ever had a ticket, law suit, felony, misdemeanor, paternity test, pays child support, been married or divorced, purchased a home, went into foreclosure, etc. and the list goes on. Just make sure that you check EVERY state that he's ever lived in.
2006-11-21 01:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by lovelife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have been seeing him for 6 years and he has not made any move to share his life with you, then he doesn't love you. There are only two possible reasons why he could be hiding information from you. Either he is mentally ill (in which case there is no future with him) or he is married.
Tell him that you cannot go on any longer without knowing the truth, and that if he won't share everything with you, then you won't speak to him again.
2006-11-21 01:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this someone you met online? sounds like it...and how do you know that you know all about his family...have you ever tried to contact them? I bet this doofus is in a relationship...or is not who he says he is...and showing someone the apartment on cam is hardly knowing anything about him///could be anywhere...doesn't mean his wife isn't out shopping for groceries...if he wont tell you ...you have to ask yourself why...hes hiding something and after 6 years...you're wasting your time...get out into the real world and find one that will actually take you to his place.
2006-11-21 01:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he has a crappy job? Maybe he has some criminal history?
Maybe he has horrible credit? Could be lots of things.
Here is my question: It has been 6 years and you don't know where he lives??????
Wow it took you 6 years to ask this question?
2006-11-21 01:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by travis R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are going nowhere with this guy, he might have someone else or is actively trying to get with someone else, you r on the "back burner " so to speak your relationship is stagnant, find someone who is not afraid to share their life, aslo use a condom he might be on the "down low " know what i mean?
2006-11-21 01:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is MARRIED or has a partner- quit. Try finding him online- hire a gumshoe to check him out. Good luck.
2006-11-21 01:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by jyone scotani 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know seems you know everything ..So he might be married ?are you sure he's single as he has a child?
2006-11-21 01:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋