plz help me seriously im crying?

Question

my bf abused me coz his best friend is all the time proving him tht im a cheap gurl n im very bad n not worth talking etc. now he has started believing him. his friend proved him tht i went on a date with another guy on 5th nov. whereas i was very sick tht day n was all day at home with my parents.he believed him n abused me through text mesging. he had stopped calling me 4-5 months back n now stopped looking at me n mesging me even. tht frind is always with him. i cant contact him coz he has abused me im totally helpless now. i loved him so much but his friend has done so bad . WILL MY BF EVER CONTACT OR MESG ME NOW OR...??? I CRY SO MUCH N MISS HIM SO MUCH. I HAV NEVER THOUGHT OF ANYONE ELSE EXCEPT HIM BUT HE DIDNT BELIEVE ME. WILL HE CONTACT ME??? PLZ HELP SERIOUSLY

Answer 1

he abuses you and you love him...boy...snap out of it girl...things are not going to get better...find a decent guy that has a good opinion of you and doesnt listen to his chums all the time..block his name on messaging too,,and dont answer him...and stop calling him your boyfriend that ended months ago.,

Answer 2

First and foremost, anybody that accuses someone of cheating is very insecure and self concious.
If a boyfriend is going to believe his friend with absolutly no proof whatsoever, then maybe that's not the right guy for you.

Has this guy ever cheated on you?

I've noticed with alot of female friends in my past that a guy that has cheated always freaks out about his girl cheating even though it would never happen. It's a guilt feeling the guy has that because he cheated, he automatically assumes the girl would.

I understand you have feelings for you boyfriend but someone who would just shut out the 'love of his life' without even a reason isn't a good boyfriend.
Communcation is the key in relationships.

If he won't believe you or listen to reason then move on.
He sounds like someone who loves having control.
He's probably out having a good time and not even caring that he's making you miserable by treating you poorly.

If you are truthful with him and he doesn't believe you, leave him.
I know that's not whaty ou want to hear but it's the best thing for you to do in a situation like that.

Answer 3

He is not good for you. In a relationship, the pros need to highly outweigh the cons. From what you have written, there is more misery than happiness in your relationship. Another vital thing is he doesn't trust you and that's why he believed his friend before hearing your side of the story.

Break up with him. As hard as it will be, it will so be worth it when you'll look back at it in a year's time. If you let go of him you'll be able to gain a good man who'll love and respect you. Don't rush into another relationship though.

Answer 4

People that listen that strongly to other's opinions do not who they are on the inside. They tend to be more mean-spirited because they are more worried about their own reputation than true values and beliefs. If he won't even stand up for you in front of people, it has the potential to get physical in private, honestly. Relationships are about standing together, not dogging each other around friends. I know it's hard when you love someone so much- you think about it always and it's not really easily 'gotten over'. But it is better to love someone who loves you when they are with you AND when they aren't. Chin up. It WILL be o.k. Women just feel more and seem to take relationships more seriously earlier than guys. I'm sorry you are crying. I cry by myself sometimes, alot, too.

Answer 5

I understand what u r going thru. It is hard but no matter what his friend says to him if he does in fact care for you the way u say then he will call u, don't know how long though! If he doesn't or even when he does maybe you will be over him by then and you can just hang up on him. U don't want to be with a person who abuses you either so be careful.

Answer 6

For your sake I hope he doesn't. He cannot really care for you if he abuses you, friend or no friend. I know it's not easy but you need to move on and find a boy that's deserving of you and will treat you good instead of treating you like a punching bag. He has done severe damage to your self esteem and it will probably take awhile and a lot of work to build it back up. You are not helpless. Keep telling yourself that you are a strong girl and you will find a nice boy. Be patient it will happen.

Answer 7

You sound young no offense but trust me there will be many heartaches as you get older he sounds immature and i wouldnt give him the time of day, maybe you should be the one to just walk away and not worry if the looser will call, act like you dont care so much, guys love the crying game dont give him the satisfaction,most men are pigs, you will kiss many frogs till you find the prince who wont leave you over cheap lies, his loss , move on

Answer 8

Wow! You must always remember one thing. If a guy abuses you i any way, just think how that will increase in time? If you don't stand up for yourself then you will always be a victim.

He really doesn't sound like anyone decent. So good advice?

Goddbye and good riddance to bad luck. Why be sad? It's probably the best thing thing for not to be involved.

Good Luck
Jason

Answer 9

The guy is a loser, please do yourself a favour and forget about him. Move on girl, find a better man worthy of you. Get up and go out with the girls, go dancing, whatever you enjoy. This one is not worth crying over anymore. You've cried too many tears over a man who is not worth wasting any more energy on. Okay, you're hurt, you know that, I know that. Why, put yourself in a position where he can hurt you again?

Any man who will abuse you verbally, on the advise of a friend, who is tellling lies, is a loser without a mind of his own. Don't consider him a BF, consider him an ex, history...

A man who is quick to judge, and verbally abuse and abuse you in writing via text messages...will eventually abuse you physically.
Don't expect or want this man to come back to you.

A smart man would have asked you about the situation his freind made up. This guy obviously wasn't smart enough to figure out that his freind was jealous of your spending time with him, and wants to hang out with your ex, and eliminating you was key to doing that.

Communication is a key to a good relationship, no communication=no relationship.

Start thinking of the kind of man you want in your life, and begin to attrect him to you. As long as you brood over Mr. Meanie, you'll have no energy going out there to find a better relationship for now or in the future. Invite a better situation into your life, and be pickier next time!

Blessings, and lots of good vibes to you!
Keep smiling, even when it feels you're faking it, and in time, those tears of sadness will be replaced with tears of joy!
Rani

Answer 10

Him not calling or messaging u may be the best thing that's happened to u......u sound like a confused young woman.....take this time to focus on making urself a stronger person....and forget about that scumbag. If he truly loved u, he would not be abusive.....trust me, there is no shortage of nice, respectful young men in this world...GO FIND URSELF ONE OF THOSE!!

Answer 11

if he's abusing you, he's not worth it. no one deserves to be abused like that! don't worry, there are way better guys out there than someone who has to stoop to the level of abusing you! i hope you find someone who will respect you and love you for who you are! as much as it might hurt right now to hear this, he doesn't love you because he doesn't trust you, and you can't have love without trust. don't worry, i know you'll find somebody better. it will just take time to get over this guy.