do? I don't want to break up with him and then it turns out that I am just being a paranoid freak! And he is so sweet to me, but there have been a few times when he hasn't came home at night after going out to the club and I can't get a hold of him. He always says that he just passed out at his friends place. But it seems odd to me. And also he is really crazy about having his cell on him at ALL times, and he hits ignore on it alot! I mean I have no real proof of cheating, but I can't go on wondering because it's bugging me soooo much, what should I do?
2006-11-20 16:37:11 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get over it then! Before you assume anything, and ruin your relationship... you better get over it or confront him or catch him!
2006-11-20 16:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Somebody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through the same thing a some yrs ago. He was such a sweetheart to me, i swear. Everything was perfect (almost). It was i guess i would say the same thing as with you. The thing is that he was crazy about his cell being on too. And when he went out to clubs while i stayed in his house sometimes he would just come home really late the same thing i would call him and his phone would be off. well its seems like it would ring and then he would look at the number and press no ...which sends it to voicemail. When i askd him about it i would he had many excuses... like the battery died or he was in a area that didn't have service.
were even engaged and he supported me financially my mom loved him his family loved me. We dated about 6 yrs.
Anyway to ball it all down, everything in the dark comes to light and eventually i found out that he was cheating with someone in his complex about 1 block away. She knew who i was and i knew of her as far as there were rumors about her...she likes to have sex with other womans men and she was from what i heard she is really really good in bed (whatever they meant). When i found out i gave him his diamond ring back and decided that i deserve to be with someone that will give me what i want and whom i would give what he wants whether its love, respect, honor, trust, whatever i know and had reconized that either i stay and hope that he won't do it anymore or that i make the choice for the both of us and most importantly for myself. Even though it hurt soooo much to leve him i was able to be strong and not go back to him. I told him what i had decided.
PS. What really did it for me was when i had a hot looking girl flirt with him and even start a regular conversation then say eventually asking if they can exchange numbers and stuff. Well i sure busted him this way by setting him up. He went for the bait.
I suggesst you throw the bait and see if he goes for it like i did.
Very Good Luck To You. I hope you get peace of mind.
2006-11-21 01:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have confronted him and he is defensive, he is probably guilty. But what I would do is give him a taste of his own medicine. Be unavailable, start being unpredictable. Change something about yourself...something simple, like taking up a new hobby. Show him you can and will move on without him! If he loves you , it will bring him to his senses and remind him that he can't have his cake and eat it too! In short: be mysterious...it will eat him up!
2006-11-21 00:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by Leslie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just got out of a relationship where I played dumb and believed he was being true..come to find out he was sleeping with his ex girlfriend/best friend when the entire time I thought they were just friends. And don't get me wrong, he was the sweetest and always told me wonderful things but guys know how to play girls if girls let em.
2006-11-21 00:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsistah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. If you suspect something, your problems run deeper than that. You obviously do not have a very good relationship and it just will get worse. You will never trust him, and he will always sense that. Dump him and find yourself a good man. One who doesn't make you feel paranoid! You deserve happiness...
2006-11-21 00:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by GK2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him privately. if hes gonna ignore u, then confront him in a public place. if he still ignores u... then hes prolly cheating on u, and u should get ready 2 move on....
2006-11-21 00:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by gumm13b34r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch him a lil bit more and question him....dnt be agressive but dnt b too soft.Just let him knw hw u feel...if he rili cares he'll get his act 2geda....U deserve d best and not less,Gudluck
2006-11-21 00:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tinnie Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest you hire a private investigator and have him followed and get proof if he is cheating or not. if he is cheating dump him and find somebody else. you don't want a loser when you can find somebody else who will treat you a lot better.
2006-11-21 00:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ happy ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you confronted him about your suspicions, Do so and see what kind of reaction you get and go from there.
2006-11-21 00:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU FEEL THAT HE BEEN DISHONEST WITH YOU, THEN
YOU NEED TO CONFRONT HIM ABOUT THIS. IF HE DOING
THING THAT ARE SUSPICIOUS THEN GO WITH YOUR FIRST
MIND. IT USUALLY RIGHT. HE MAY BE UP TO SOMETHING
NO GOOD.
2006-11-21 00:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋