ok so im seeing this guy and im really into him. but the problem is when we have sex he goes way too fast, if you know what i mean. i dont think he does iton purpose, buts its really frusterating. i need my cookie too. WHAT DO I DO? HOW DO I BRING IT UP???
2006-11-20 16:23:03 · 17 answers · asked by Viper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would just tell him straight up, you're going to fast. or slow down. tell him what you want.
2006-11-20 16:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Striker MG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's not doing it on purpose, you're just too HOT for him! ;)
There's a tantra method that might help. For guys there's a fine line between the build-up and point-of-no-return. What he needs to do is practice getting as close to that line as possible without going over. He can switch positions with or give your oral for a little while, etc. If he practices this technique, he will he be able to last a long time. If he gets really good, he'll be able to have multiple male orgasms. Good luck!
2006-11-21 00:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay girl its time u two start off real slow. Candles, wine, slow jams, even rose petals. Try handcuffs, blindfolds or even feathers. U need more foreplay and u gotta take it slow even tease him without giving it up all just like that. Do a strip tease for him. Let it be more than just the sex. He probally is excited and u make him so hot he can't handle u. Prolong it and he will learn to hold it and make it last longer.
2006-11-21 00:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take it he is kinda young ??? the older we get, even guys, the more self control we learn, in all areas... you could try, when he gets all hot and bothered, slowing things down urself... maybe not even go all the way ?? there are books and stuff out there to help, I hope you are an adult, in legal terms, if not, then I suggest you slow way down on the sex stuff, there is plenty of time !!!..... God bless
2006-11-21 00:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happen to many men.Maybe he can masturbate,before he see you (one day before).If he has sex too fast(mean he ejaculate before satisfy you),after masturbate before;then he has a problem. Some Men need to learn this: women need to get orgasm before men ejaculate.After the woman get orgasm,then the man can ejaculate.He can touch you,kiss you,give you oral sex,kiss your breasts,etc;and after warm or put you really hot,then he can start to penetrate you and let you go first (get your orgasm).Practise make the master.Good luck.Good question.
2006-11-21 00:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Viper: You have a minute man on your hands. It is refered to as premature ejaculation. The ideal is to be able to go off together when doing "it" ! But; this is the ideal ... it takes lots of time and practice ... lots of it . Try oral sex - the Rolling Stones have a logo you can refer to for direction. Good luck with your peanut butter cookie !!!
2006-11-21 00:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gets too excited. Why don't you take charge. If that does not work, tell him. Do you two have foreplay? Tell him honey I wish you would go a little slower because I want the good feeling to last and last. Be cautious of his fragile ego.
2006-11-21 00:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by glenda576 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Us guys need you to be direct... example
"Slow down, don't climax to fast, i need to be able to climax to or i'm going to have to find some other way to get myself off"
Re asure him you like him but you need him to prep you a bit first.
Ideas- get your self going first.... play with a vibe prior to the one on one or have him pratice his oral skills making him keep his pants on for the first 5 -10 minutes or So..........
2006-11-21 00:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking while you are in to it? Tell him what you like where you like it and how long. DON'T Fake it. IF he cares he will slow down and try to please you. IF it bothers him and he gets upset he don't care aobut your feelings. Move on there are better men out there that will take their time and please you. They & you need to really be honest and open with your likes and dislikes
2006-11-21 00:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by tena s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try changing positions and talk about how it so good that you want it to last longer so you can get more happy endings. also try haveing him go down on you if you like that kinda thing.
2006-11-21 00:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by krazeetingtong 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋