I am 27yrs still living with my controlling parents, how do I tell them that I need to move out without all hell breaking loose. They are contrl freaks...
2006-11-20 16:14:00 · 16 answers · asked by Sittle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes young adults overestimate how controlling their parents really are. They may seem a bit overbearing to you now because you are still in THEIR HOUSE. I suggest you just drop subtle hints that one day you may decide to get your own place. Judge their reaction. If they just take notice, and don't seem to be upset, stop worrying they will be fine. Get your own place and start planning when you will go.
If they vigorously try to talk you out of it, THEY ARE CONTROL FREAKS. You will have to be blunt and just tell them you are going. BUT, have your own place set up before you tell them.
Best of luck......
2006-11-20 16:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the exact opposite problem that I have. I'm 28, living with my parents, and trying to save up enough money to move to San Francisco. I've been battling with my parents for a year now, begging them to let me stay, cause I know that there's no way I could save up the money living on my own. Fortunately, my move date is in January.
If I were in you're position I would simply go out and get an apartment. Sign the lease then start moving your stuff. What are they going to do? You're 27. It sounds like they're over-protective, which isn't healthy for you or them. So just move out, after a while they'll be used to you being on your own. Good luck!
2006-11-20 16:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 08:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are writing in a weak, passive voice: "I need to move out."
Take the initiative - check out some apartments in an area you would like to live. But not so close to your parent's house that they can stop by because they were 'in the area.'
Then sign the lease, and inform your parents when you are moving, and do it. Get some friends to help you move and have a pizza party to celebrate.
2006-11-20 16:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tom-SJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be tough and gather your resources. do you have a job? License? a Car? you will need all of these things to be on your own. if they yell oh well it will pass. get an apt you can afford and live your life. it shouldnt be to expensive if it is just you. or if you have friends try to see if they wanna be room mates!
I left at 18 and my parents were really controlling and very upset. it was not a pretty picture. but man I felt liberated! I felt so good I didnt care if I was living on the streets. I just wanted to be on my own!
2006-11-20 16:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I am 27" you don't NEED to tell them anything. You are an adult.
You need to find a place that you can afford. Go talk to the landlord.
THEN talk to your parents. Remember its thier house, thier rules... don't like your parents being so controlling... well then you are doing the right thing.. move out.
2006-11-20 16:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Vanchaser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit doem wit h them and tell them that ur 2 old 2 live here any more.in fact thye have no more custody of u and ha dno custody for the last 9 years.
2006-11-20 19:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 27, for crying out loud. Rent a place and move your rusty butt out. Let them yell. You should have done it years ago. Most people your age have their own families.
2006-11-20 16:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control your own destiny and get things arranged and moved before you tell them. Then tell them you'll call in a week. Good luck.
2006-11-20 16:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are 27 - its high time to go!!
Look for an apartment, then pack & go. If they are really control freaks, better move far, far away.
2006-11-20 16:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋