My man says that he will never get married again. He is divorced. He says this but then from time to time he will bring up marriage but then he never asks so I am not sure what to think, please tell me what you think.
2006-11-20 16:10:44 · 20 answers · asked by Marie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I had to smile when I read this question. I've been there!
What happened with me was, that each time he raised it, I said that I would like to get married. I explained that it was important to me, because it would be my way of boasting to everyone what a wonderful man I'd found.
After a few times, he said that if it was important to me, then we'd better do it. That's as close to a proposal as I got!
Before we actually tied the knot, I worried that he was only doing it to please me. However it was obvious on our wedding day, that he was thrilled to bits. He's since said that he's proud to have me as his wife.
I think the bottom line is, that some men are terrified of rejection. He keeps bringing up the subject of marriage, because he doesn't want to ask until he's absolutely positive you really want it, and you won't either turn him down or leave him at the altar.
Try reassuring him how much you want to spend the rest of your life with him, and see what happens!
2006-11-20 17:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
When he says he will never marry you he means it. But he keeps bringing up the topic every now and than cause he feels that you might be interested in marriage and he is kind of worried about it so he keeps making it clear to you that he does not want to get married again.
How do you feel about your relationship with him? Do you want to get married to him? If yes than it might be seen in your face because of which he keeps bringing up the topic. If no than i suggest you just tell him that neither are you interested in marrriage i think he will not bring up the topic again.
But if you do want to get married than please i dont think this guy will get married to you so just break up with him. He might actually realise that he misses u too much to let you go and might just propose you or may ask some time from you. But dont wait too long it will only get more difficult for you to leave.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-11-20 18:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to give him time to figure it out still. divorces are a tough thing, and though he may be ready for a gf, he may be scared of marriage still. don't push the topic but if he brings it up, have the discussion. maybe he's working it out mentally that he would be interested in marriage again. i'd take this as a good sign, but just don't push it. it sounds like he's coming around. i know i keep saying not to push it but i'm emphasizing that for a reason....i'm a girl too so i know that whole mentality of wanting it and getting excited even at the "talk" but putting the brakes on is tough too...but playing it cool and showing the intrest when it comes up is great. hard to do, but great if you can balance it!!! good luck!
2006-11-20 17:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mine said the same thing. He was married before to a total goon who cheated on him and used him. I mean this girl had the whole world and gave it up so she could get out and be nasty with everyone else.
Anyways, after our son was born about 2 yrs later we talked about it every so often and then one day he was like one day we are going to get married. Not sure when, but one day.
Time went on and we talked more and more about it. Mainly I was trying to reassure him that I am not her, never would be and things werent changing. He was scared- he didnt want to be hurt again. I never knew that was his reason, but onece he told me that we started to talk.
Long story short- I finally got fed up with waiting, told him that i was tired of being a girlfriend and that time wasnt slowing down any time soon. I didnt force him, but it lit the fire under his bottom. He would rather marry me than not to have me, so now we are engaged to be married!
Some guys hold resentment for many years after a marriage fails. Give him time, but not too much. Let him know that you are the one he needs, and that you cant be a gf forever. he may just surprise you!
2006-11-20 16:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Believe me ...he is more confused than wot u are. But in reality he probably needs to come to grip with that termonolgy "marriage"! He feels scared that its not gonna be a waste again!
U gotta bring up the topic for ur own sake and know where ur relationship is heading. If he is in continual denial of himself and of the situatins around him then u will be waiting "FOREVER"!
2006-11-20 18:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by choilein 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just trying to be "big and tough". My husband used to say that all the time before we got married, mostly to other men. A lot of men seem to think being emotional and committed is weak. I don't understand it, but that's my experience.
2016-05-22 04:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is unable to forget his past, since you said he is a divorced. U should not pester him for marriage. If possible u try to take him any where outside so that he can change his mind. Personally I feel that it is not so easy to come out from that mania but it is not too difficult, try to divert his daily routine so that some change may be expected.
2006-11-20 22:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just stringing you along as far as you're willing to go. Unless you don't want to be married I'd get the fudge out of dodge.
2006-11-23 15:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he could be confused, maybe he's worried if he marries you whatever happened with his last marriage might happen again, sounds like he does hope 2 though maybe just not right now, i hope u find out
2006-11-21 05:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's sending double messages and you need to know once and for all how he feels about getting married. Getting married to you that is.
2006-11-20 16:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋