To break it down for ya, im an 18 YO male, and i just got out of a 9 MO relationship wih girl "A" due to her leaving 2 HRS away for college. I trusted her completely just did not wanna commit myself to her if she is in the enviornment that i do not trust, College parties. Then there is girl "B" that i dated for two and a half years prior to my relationship with girl "A". Now, Girl A realizes that she still likes me and comes home on the weekends and we hang out pretty much 24/7, and act like a couple. When she is off to college during the week, i hang out with girl B, and act like were in a relationship. Im in a dilemma with both of them and dont know what to do. This is a "high quality" problem. They both know about eachother but do not suspect much. I have mixed feelings about each of them. Its just hard to hang out just as "friends" with either of them, because i dateted them and have so much temptaion when we hang out. Any advice?
2006-11-20 16:04:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask them both if they've ever thought about a 3-some. If they're into it, take 'em both on.
Worked for me.
2006-11-20 16:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by wraith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dilemma here is that you feel guilty. You might as well just tell them both what's going on, that way it will be off your conscience, and they will be able to make an informed decision about whether or not to still see you (and they will find out eventually and want to mount your head on the wall...or some part of you anyway). This is fair to both of them and should be no big deal to you. If you can play them both like this, it's obvious that you aren't really into either one of them. Best not to lead them on. If they both dump you, there are other girls out there.
2006-11-20 16:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what you are supposed to do when you are young: date different people. That is the only way you will find out what kind of female you are attracted to. Throw away the guilt and have fun. You are not committed to either girl and they know about each other. What more can you ask for? I have two grown sons and that is the advice I gave them both.
2006-11-20 16:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by glenda576 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanging out with one of them, and get back to dating the other.
I don't know all the details, but from what you've said, I can draw the following conclusions:
1: You're an idiot for dumping girl A. She's bettering herself, and the college parties are almost all on the weekends... when she's with YOU.
2: Girl B is trouble. That's why you dumped her.
2006-11-20 16:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be mature and make up your mind which girl you want to be with. Why string either one along and hurt one of them in the long run. If it is just an ego boost for you to have two girls on a string re-think your own motives. It is possible to love them both but you have to make a decision as to which one is the one for you.
2006-11-20 16:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either chose which one u prefer, and if u cant dumb both of them, they dont deserve this kind of treatment.....must b difficult i understand but try and take a decision
2006-11-20 16:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by danny's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant have your cake and eat it too.
someone is going to get hurt here, its not fair.
you need to choose which one you want the most, and cut all ties with the other.
2006-11-20 16:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO JUST BE HONEST WITH THEM AND LET THEM
KNOW WHAT THE DEAL IS, IT WOULD BE THE RIGHT THING
TO DO, ALL OF YOU ARE PRETTY YOUNG. SO JUST BE
HONEST. AND GO FROM THERE.
2006-11-20 16:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋