I asked a girl today "what would you do if I kissed you?" Just to kind of heads up. She just froze and said "Umm, I don't know." I was so embarassed and felt so stupid. I left shortly after. What should the next step be? We've known eachother for some time now, and we've been talking about sex a lot. What should I do? Should I go and talk to her and see what her feelings are, or what?I'm not very good at this kind of stuff. Please. I need some help here.
Thanks
2006-11-20 15:59:38 · 16 answers · asked by aureliusrocker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you like her you're supposed to take a risk not ask her to. Asking her what she'd do if you kissed her doesn't exactly tell her you like her; what it tells her is you want to know if she likes you.
2006-11-20 16:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would have been better if you said nothing, because if you just kissed her she would have kissed you back and then let you know. But, a guy did the same thing to me. He said I am going to kiss you now. I was turned off, although I let him. Chances are you didn't give her a chance to let her give you a proper answer. It sounds like she got shy, but would have. How about you ask her to dinner or somewhere, don't talk about what happened at all. She might see you as insecure. Then see if you can try again? Without telling her your plans. Good idea!
2006-11-20 16:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, how does she act normally? like when u talk about sex do u think she thinks of u as a friend just having fun? Only u can get the vibe of how she thinks of u. Does she flirt? when u asked her that did she look like, OMG! please don't? or did she blush or act like shy? It's hard to tell w/out knowing how she is w/u all the time. I'm not sure if she thinks of u as a friend to goof with or what? U could ask her straight out orrrrr just wait and see what kinda vibes she sends u. I mean usually u have some kinda feeling which way some1 feels. friend or more.
2006-11-20 16:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definatly talk to her, or suprise her with a kiss. Since you already brought it up, she was expecting you to do it then, so pop one on her. Then see where things go. It is best to play it one thing at a time. If you plan something, then it doesnt work out that way, you are lost, because you had one plan of action. The best thing you can do is go for it! kiss her, ask her out on a date, something! It is better to do it and feel wierd or embarrassed then not to and wonder what would have happened IF you did.
2006-11-20 16:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i guess the *movie* approach did not work for ya huh ?? it does sometimes...... so I suggest that the next step be to ask her out for an afternoon delight, such has a movie and a burger, or maybe a play or something mellow and easy like that...... talk to her, find out about HER, let her do the choosing of conversation, and if she ask you about urself, tell her who you are in simple terms...... dont brag or boast, but be honest, if she ask, then she realy wants to know.... at the end of the date, if all is going well, watch her body language, she will give you signs if the *kiss* is or should happen....... God bless
2006-11-20 16:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she your girlfriend? OR just a friend? If she's your girlfriend then I don't know why she would be frozen just because u asked her what if u kissed her? So I'm gonna say she's just your friend & I really don't think u guys should be talking about sex if u airn't a couple yet (I'm just presuming from the info u wrote)
2006-11-20 16:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by lost in translation. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"put yourself in the other person's shoes"
Think about it.. you are akward because you are just learning. Do you think she is an expert? Don't judge her based on her reactions, or judge yourself.
When the moment it right... lean in for a kiss.. if she wants to.. she'll do the same.. if she pulls away.. she's either not interested.. OR she's not ready to go there yet. Respect that people mature at different times.. and that is PERFECTLY ok.
2006-11-20 16:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by Vanchaser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must talk to her and tell her how you feel without being sleazy. Buy her some flowers/chocolates, take her out to dinner, do something nice together and apologise for making her feel uncomfortable. Just be truthful and tell her what your are feeling and valuer her thoughts and opinion on the situation. Tell her what you want from your relationship and ask her what she wants. Good luck.
2006-11-20 16:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was leaving after you asked the question. "Umm, I don't know" means try it and see. If she was not at all interested, she would have said she'd slap you if you tried. Since you failed to complete the mission, now she's confused too. Talk is cheap. Plant one on her already!
2006-11-20 16:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ermmm, I'm confused....so did you actually kiss her or not? If not, you need to tell her you need to see her urgently, turn up at her door and just grab her and kiss her passionately like they do in the movies. The next step is up to you. Good luck : )
2006-11-20 18:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋