we live together......we are not dating.....and we are pregnant...and he said he isnt ready for a baby......he is still in love with his ex.....im 25 hes 32....we are so good together....why cant he see this could work for us......
2006-11-20 15:54:40 · 15 answers · asked by gemini_girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a noble cause. Every piece of the puzzle is in place except the biggest one. The key part that holds the rest of the puzzle together, and you are hoping he will come around. It is possible he will choose you and your unborn child, but it's also possible he will ignore you and your attempts to catch him for the rest of your life. If he does continue to reject you, what will you do? start planning NOW. Hope is a very good thing, but you must accept that what your hoping for is not for sure. it is merely a possibility, a potentiality that could continue going the other way forever.
HOPE FOR SOMETHING ELSE!!
2006-11-20 17:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Bawn Nyntyn Aytetu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow - you really like playing against a stacked deck, don't you? He's still in love with his ex, but you are so good together? That doesn't even make sense. You live togethr, you're pregnant, but you aren't dating? That makes even less sense.
Your best move would be to pack up and get out of there. It won't work for you, because he isn't interested in making it work. A relationship is awfully crowded with three people in it, and that seems to be what you have right now. Sorry, but your best bet is to leave. Go home, go stay with a relative or a friend, but leave him with his memories of the ex. Hope the next guy you meet is everything this one isn't -- and that he'll want to make a home and a future with you and your child.
2006-11-20 23:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What part of this is working now?
1. You're not dating
2. He's in love with his ex
3. You're pregnant, he isn't ready
How are you good together? How could this possibly work?
At the risk of sounding insensitive, you need a reality check. After you've had it, you decide what you're going to do about your pregnancy and start working on a life that does not include him.
2006-11-20 23:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force it. Talk to a lawyer about child support options and be prepared to raise this child on your own. If you try to make him stay and be a hubby and a daddy when he doesn't want it.....you'll ALL be miserable, and in the end he'll leave anyway. You're going to be a fantastic mom, think of your child's life and how he or she deserves to be loved and wanted by EVERYONE in the home, and you'll know what to do.
2006-11-20 23:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by alwayslarat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you live together if you're not even dating? Looks like you bit the big one, honey. Sorry.
2006-11-20 23:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by UVRay 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will not work out if he is still in love with his ex, baby or no baby
personal experience
2006-11-21 00:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by venus11224 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am against abortion, so don't abort, but I think he needs time to get over his ex and if he goes back to his ex make him pay for child support.
2006-11-21 00:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by lady t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL IF YOU ARE LIVIING TOGETER THEN WHAT
DO YOU MEAN YOU ARE NOT DATING. AND FOR THIS
CHILD COMING HE HAS NO CHOICE IN THE MATTER NOW.
AND FOR THIS WORKING OUT . IT SOUND LIKE BOTH OF
YOU HAVE SOME SERIOUS ISSUES THAT BOTH OF YOU
NEED TO ADDRESS FOR THIS CHILD COMES. BECAUSE
IF HE STILL HAS FEELING FOR HIS EX. THEN WHY ARE
YOU STILL WITH HIM.
2006-11-20 23:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should of wrapped that puppy before you jumped on it sweety. Good luck.
2006-11-20 23:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THe mariage has lost its spark. Dont divorce,just live with eachother, and love eachother, 3/4 marriages always end in divorces.
2006-11-20 23:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Eplic 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋