I was born with peridontal diease (?spelling?). Which makes your teeth decay at an accelerated rate in some cases. I am a very clean person and take great pride in my apperance. So instead of walking around with rotting teeth I had them pulled and bought the best dentures that money could buy. (I am 27 now and had them pulled at 21.) They look very real and no one has been able to tell the difference, not even my boyfriend. We have been together for a month now and everything is going great. He has no clue that they are fake. We have been intimate in every way and he still does not know. I'm scared if I tell him that he will freak out & take off. But then on the other hand I'm wondering if I should even bring it up at all. I don't want to feel like I am deceving him in any way but I'm not sure if it's something I should let him bring up in time or just spill the beans and get it out in the open. Serious advice please.
2006-11-20 15:37:56 · 22 answers · asked by rayne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do NOT remove them at anytime when he is over. I hide all my denture products & brush just like I have regular teeth when he is around
2006-11-20 15:47:08 · update #1
I found out after we broke up that my college boyfriend of 1.5 years had false teeth. I had absolutely NO clue while we were dating that his teeth were false... I had no reason to suspect that his teeth were anything but real. Once while looking at a picture of his mother while we were still dating, I mentioned to him how his teeth looked just like his mother's, but he never said anything to me about his false teeth. Eventually he let me in on his "secret" after we broke up... he told me that he needed to get his false teeth repaired because they had chipped. I was shocked, mostly because he had kept it a secret from me for so long. If he had told me while we were dating, I would have been very surprised (mostly because his teeth looked so real), but I would have also been touched and flattered that he trusted me enough to tell me. I'd say to tell him eventually when you feel ready and if you think that the relationship is going to become more serious. Just start out by explaining that you were born with peridontal disease and that you need false teeth as a result. Try to be confident and casual about it when you tell him, and he will feel comfortable too. Good luck!
2006-11-20 15:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him, but you have to pick the time and place. How you tell him depends on how he is and where you guys are in your relationship. I've had false teeth since I was 14 myself so I've been in your position a couple of times. I found that waiting a little while before saying anything isn't so bad. Waiting a long time is probably not as good. I mean if in a month or so it doesn't seem to be going anyplace, then there's no use in saying anything when it may become a moot point for other reasons. But if it looks like it could turn into something really good, I wouldn't delay saying anything too long. If he really loves you for you, he wouldn't care if you were completely toothless without false teeth. He might be a little upset that you didn't trust him enough to say something if you wait too long and he finds out on his own though. The next time you 2 have some private time, I'd think about mentioning it. Like I said if he really thinks a lot of you, it won't matter that your teeth come out. The first time my fiance saw me I wasn't expecting to meet anybody and I wasn't exactly looking my best. I was helping my mom with some gardening in the yard and I was sweaty and dirty and toothless. I never expected to hear from him ever again. Lucky for us his mom and my grandma worked together, so he was able to track me down a couple days later and we've been together ever since. Whatever you decide, I hope it works out the way you want.
2016-03-12 20:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a really tough one and I'm not sure what the right thing to do is. I think if you start to get serious, then you should tell him. If you have just been dating for a month, I wouldn't feel bad about not telling him. Later, it is probably something you should tell him. I guess I would be very surprised if I found out my boyfriend had false teeth. But if I loved him, it would not be a deal breaker. I would hope that he trusted me enough to tell me.
2006-11-20 15:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A smile to me is Very important in a girl. If the teeth are fake, well who cares. It wouldn't bother me. If he loves you and he is everything you think he is, he wont care either. I think you should tell him. I don't believe in secrets when your with some one. Think of it as a test, if he is OK with it, he could be a nice guy, if he is an *** about it, well at leased you found out before the 2 month mark right?
2006-11-20 15:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by luffa202 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My False Teeth
2016-12-15 07:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is necessary to tell him at this time. But I don't think it's something that needs to be hidden either. Its more like a non-issue. My mother had the same problem you did. She doesn't try to hide it, but she doesn't try to bring attention to it.
2006-11-20 15:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is based on more than teeth. Don't worry I will tell you to tell him only if you feel that you need to. Other wise don't worry about it. You should not feel this guilt over it.
2006-11-20 15:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats gotta be a tough situation.
I think you should tell him. FIll him in on your situation, and then tell him about your false teeth.
He should take it well if he is a reasonable and kind guy. If not, then you don't need him anyway.
2006-11-20 15:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by ChrisB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dating this guy, so it is not really his business unless you decide it is. If you were engaged and he is going to be husband sure no problem talking about everything important is what commit ed couples do, but just being together for a month does not qualify for him to know what your favorite color is. If you do tell him and it makes a difference than the guy is a jerk. It is no deception because your relationship is pretty short term. I would not bother telling every guy you decide to date until it gets heavy into the relationship or by way of him breaking out the bling bling and asking you the big question.
2006-11-20 15:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by John E 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
..... just pick a quiet casual time at your place or his, if he would mind if you could tell him something personal,.... then just tell him in as nice and as casual way as you can, then ask him if that's o.k. with him..... I cant see that there would be any problem with it, but should'nt be left to long, so that you will both know where you's are at...
2006-11-20 16:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by peanut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋