I've been with my bf for 6 months now and after about 3 months he said "I Love You" and I didn't say it back.He was fine with it then now it's been 3 months since and he says it on a regular basis and I don't say it back and it bothers him.I'm just not the type of girl to talk about my feelings unless I absolutely have to.Isn't it the role of the girl to want to be talking about feelings not the guy?Why is it an issue for him?
2006-11-20 15:31:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you don't love him then cut him loose. easy. I figured it was common sense.
2006-11-20 15:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Vince 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright, so humans, for the most part, live for reactions and perform 10 times better when there is stimulation and interaction. (Refer back to childhood for proof, when the child says "look at me!" and looks back at his parents to make sure they're watching.) You can see the same pattern in the grown adult. People like to be assured, acknowledged, and recognized. We like to know our feelings and ideas are valid and at least, understood. By you giving some form of feedback, when he expresses a feeling, is a means to acknowledge him. And although you might not have that same level of feeling to give back to him, you must at least reply to balance the thoughts out.
*So! if I need to give you some idea on what to reply with, tell him how much he Means to you. "Darlin, you mean the world to me!".
And on your short remark of women being the sole people to express feelings, well think again. Get away from that idea that we live in a box and don't feel. We don't have to live one way just because everybody else does.
I hope you found this helpful.
2006-11-20 23:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by lady_croft02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually takes a lot of courage for anyone to say "i love you" and i suppose you get insecure if the person you love doesn't say i love you back. maybe you guys should talk about it, just this once, then you guys won't have to mention it again.
2006-11-24 03:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by bltmek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me, that you grew up in a bit of a cold home. Let him teach you to be more affectionate if you do love him. If you don't, explain to him that love is a strong word and you will tell him when you are ready and no sooner.
2006-11-20 23:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took 3 yrs to say " I love you " back, & I don't say it , unless I feel it,
he's insecure obviously,
but it's ok,
if you care about him, say so,
but using the word love, ?
if you don't feel it, don't say it...
it's only a word, unless there's meaning behind it...
2006-11-20 23:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have feeling for someone expressing it make you stronger, and closer, and that's what he wants from you to be more closer. In physical world any day could be our last , so saying I love you's to people that we love is crucial.
2006-11-20 23:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a sap and is using the word to freely. You don't know what love is until you've spent your entire life with someone.
2006-11-20 23:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know when I say "i love you" its because i mean it, and also because i want to know if he feels the same by saying "i love you too" or whatever. maybe that's it.
2006-11-20 23:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by Alecto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say it to him... what do you mean "why is it an issue for him" are you cold hearted?
say i love you back if you really love him, if you don't break up with him
2006-11-20 23:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by rusty s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One word, insecurity!
2006-11-20 23:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋