where do u draw the line when it comes to infidelity?

Answer 1

This is a difficult question to answer and cannot be answered as a one liner, but I will attempt to do so.

It can be devastating when a relationship falls prey to temptation. We will explore infidelity and see how to cope with its aftermath. By understanding the motivations behind the affair, betrayed parteners/spouses can learn to heal and rebuild their relationships.

One of the questions you undoubtably have if you've been cheated on is why it happened to you?. You've probably asked yourself this question dozens of times. And you may feel that you need to know why the affair happened in order to keep it from happening again.

The one who has cheated operates under the mistaken notion that going outside the relationship will solve his/her problems or fulfill his/her needs in some way. The "reason" that he/she has done what he/she has done could be any number of things, here is a list some common themes:

1. Some people cheat because they aren't getting their needs met inside the relationship. They no longer feel special in the relationship and they are under the deluded notion that going outside the relationship is a legitimate answer. It isn't.

2. In some cases people cheat because they have never learned to honor boundaries. They may know the boundaries are there, but they have little hesitation about stepping over them.

3. Some people are thrill seekers that just can't pass up the opportunity to get a thrill. The very fact that these people are doing something that is taboo compels them to engage in the affair.

4. Similarly, some men think that they are not a real man if they turn down a sexual invitation from someone attractive.

5. Some people have low self-esteem and they get a sense of self-worth through finding people who care about them.

6. In some cases people have sexual fetishes that their partners have problems with so they go outside the relationship in order to fulfill these sexual desires.

Whatever the reason the affair happened, the person who has cheated can choose to do some personal work on themselves and re-committ to the relationship.

How do you keep it from happening again?

If there is one thing that increases the chances of another affair happening, it is neglect. Neglect is a poison that eats away the foundation of your relationship, there are three ways that you can neglect your relationship:

1. You can neglect your own needs,

2. You can neglect your partner's needs,

3. You can neglect both your needs and your partner's needs.

When do u draw the line, after analysing the above, you may go through the events in the past and consider where and when to draw a line, if you do decide to continue then ONE firm warning is more than enough.

If you are hurt, how do you start the healing process now ?
Starting the healing process always starts with you and helping you begin to sort out the full range of emotions that are tearing your world apart. There is no excuse for infidelity. And if your relationship is going to heal, the first thing you need to realize is that the affair is not your fault. You did not force your partner to go outside your relationship. They did it themself. Even if there are things you could have done better in your relationship (and there almost certainly are), this is not an excuse or a legitimate justification for your friend/spouse to do what he or she has done. To start healing from an affair, you must realize this critical truth.

I do hope I have been able to answer your question approprately.>r

Answer 2

You draw the line for him to follow right out the door. There are far too many dangers along that route, and unless you do draw that line immediately he's going to keep walkin'... right over you.

Answer 3

Doin it in your head, may as well be doin it in your bed... A cutesy smile or flirt is more than enough to constitute infidelity. If you are seriously considering cheating, you have already given up on the relationship. Simple as that... Infidelity is the ultimate disrespect to your partner...Would be interesting to know, though, if you are suspecting someone, or are striving to find the means to justify your own actions ( or lack of them )... Inquiring minds..........

Answer 4

Well, if you've already made it clear to your partner that you are with them AND ONLY with them, and then you go around behind their backs to be with someone else, I would say that's infidelity.

It's also not being very honest and respectful to your partner whom you supposedly care about.

Answer 5

Having an affair out of wedlock that either continues for more thana few months, or with multiple people, or that doesn't end when the spouse finds out.

Answer 6

Let's see, if I was in a relationship right now, and what I would say was cheating would be something that my man and another woman wouldn't dare do in front of me.

Answer 7

I have zero tolerance for it. If he can't focus on me and our relationship enough to stay away from other women, he's not worth my time and energy.

Answer 8

you draw the line from the beging....ok

Answer 9

..... set your boundries you accept as allowable, and if he break's them repeatedly, boot him out, and re-place him!...