Are my parents being overly mean/stupid... or am I over reacting?

Question

Ok.. so my teacher... I totally look up 2 him, he's my mentor and the only adult I trust or listen to anymore..

so I care alot about him... and I think its cool I have some one I can always count on

my parents don't like the guy, and my dads only met him once!! and he just said hello my name is xxxxx . My parents make fun of him for listening to me.. and I've told them a few things he's done in the class and they make fun of the way he teaches and trys to be a good guy..

and just early today they we're totally going at him and me.... and I'm just thinking!! what the heck? I look up to this guy... just because I don't look up to you doesnt mean you can't respect him and respect me for looking up to him

am I totally over reacting?.. or are they being as big of jerks as I see them as?

oh geesh.. I just reread my question. It made it sound like I have no respect at all for my parents.. I do but not very much anymore. I am greatful they have provided me with lodging and food... but...they are VERY VERY diffrent parents than the normal demographic... they are both very immature.. and both like to make fun of me and pick on me... this is one of the reasons I don't like coming to them for help or advise..

Answer 1

I think you are free to like who you like and to be friendly to your teacher. Confide in him if you trust him but don't forget to confide in your parents also. Sometimes parents are jealous of teachers or other people that their children like.

Just in confidence, let me tell you that adults can be like big children and get jealous of your affection but they would never admit it.

Make sure you show your parents love and trust too as they need that from you. Of all people, you should try to trust and confide in your parents more than anyone else but if that is impossible, discretely confide in this teacher but don't flaunt it to your parents.

Be a little careful of your adult friend and teacher...sometimes parents suspect something in another adult that you might not be able to see but I would suspect they are feeling a little insecure and you should try to be patient with that if you can. I hope you won't openly rebel and talk about this teacher all the time to them. Instead, tell them about the nice things you told your teacher about them. Tell them nice things your teacher said about them...(even if you have to make it up at first). Something like, "My teacher said today that he was impressed that day he met you ..he says he can see where I get it." :)

They would like to hear that just as you would like to hear that they said nice things about you to him...am I right?

I don't think your parents are so insecure that they can't stand to receive a complement from your teacher through you. If they do make a mean comment to that, then they do have some deep seeded self esteem problems...and some adults do you know. Age doesn't always give the gift of emotional security but it usually does. Trust your parents but know they have feelings too and are probably afraid of losing you.

I think you can maintain a good relationship with your teacher and your parents too. You seem smart enough to pull it off.

Answer 2

It's hard to tell for certain since I don't know your parents not this teacher. However, all things being equal, it seems odd that your parents would devote so much energy to belittling an educator. It is not only immature but shows serious insecurity in their own persona. Even if they feel this way, it doesn't do anyone any good by telling you. No, you aren't overreacting, they are being jerks and I would consider having a serious discussion about the matter with your school guidance counselor.

Answer 3

Sounds as though there are a couple of things missing here. Are you a guy or a gal? How old are you? And why do your parents dislike your teacher? There are just too many points not covered here. I totally respect your admiration for your teacher, and that you look up to him. But are you perhaps flaunting your admiration of this person to the point where your parents feel you prefer him to them? After all, he isn't the one who is raising you, giving you a home, paying your bills, etc. Parents are entitled to a little respect too, and it doesn't have to be an either/or situation.

Answer 4

I think its awesome you look up to your teacher like that. And i think its awesome that your teacher takes the time to show you stuff in the class. If your parents are just making fun of them they may think he is weird but if there being jerks about the whole thing than you may want to listen to them.... i would hate to say it but almost 95% of the time your parents could be right about the teacher depeding on what they say and that 5% you may be right about the teacher... my best advice for you right now is to sit down and have a talk with them they may listen to you more than anything and if they dont and still make fun of them just ignore them on it cause parents can be cruel at times... Good Luck. I hope i helped ya out some you may need it LOL

Answer 5

I've never met any parent that would do this, my own never have, its actually awkward to even hear of this. Your parents are probably trying to find some sort of negative attribute, or are putting him down in somesort of way, because from what you've said, they want you to seek them for advice. Your parents should be the number one people you ever seek help from, they gave you birth, they give you food, home, clothing and much more, it is only hurtful for a parent to know their child seeks someone else for guidance, but it is definately not correct for them to react the way they are.

Answer 6

Well from a mothers point of view my daughter has a teacher that she looks up to & I think its great. Are your parents jealous? Maybe they think you look up more to him than you do to them. If he's talking about politics maybe they diagree with his views. If they're not considering your feelings then I don't think you're overreacting. In my house there's a rule between me & my kids.
Don't lie to me & I won't lie to you. I'll respect your feelings & opinions just do the same for me. It's working out pretty good so far. Good luck

Answer 7

You are overreacting. They're your parents, cut them some slack. If they know that "he's the only adult you trust or listen to" of course they're gonna be hard on him, and your parents will probably be wondering if he is or could become more than just your teacher. Besides, it's okay not to like someone after meeting them only once, people do it all the time.

Answer 8

THE problems is asks your parent to run a background check on him,see if he a sex offender,a chid molester ,or have any criminal history. Isee as your telling me sound like a great teacher as long your getting good grade and saying out of trouble. I hope your bringing A&B home. it alright your parents are jealos because they lost there trust for you not talking to them. I say run a reports on him go to the superintent ask for araps sheet on him if all well then tell your parent to butt out or deal with higher peoples. DO YOUR HOMEWORK SEE WHO RIGHT OR WRONGS.

Answer 9

Yes you are over reacting but you need to ask your parents straight up what it is exatly that they do not like about him. Hopefully you don't see your teacher outside of school because that would be a big reason alone. Just ask them maybe they have a good reason..I am sure they are looking out for you.

Answer 10

As a parent, I've gotta say, when my kids feel that they can talk to someone else but not me, I get a little jealous. Maybe your parents feel the same.
But I do think you are overreacting just a wee bit.
Give your parents a chance, they know more than you think