Shortest I can make it. We love each other. We know it. We've shown it. But she's afraid to move on b/c of something major in her past that is stuck between us right now. (I think I know what happened but not 100% sure) Now the more we hang out, the more...torn (?) she becomes b/c it's like she wants to get past it but she isn't ready to give up this wall she has up yet and I am the reminder it is there. So what do I do? I have seen the woman I love, and still do occasionally, but often I see this other side of her, which is fun and outgoing but unwilling to commit to anything at all in any area of her life (friends, family, me). I want to be there for her and always will be b/c we are great for each other, but how far can I go? I don't want to fall back into friend zone, I don't want a sex buddy, either, and I certainly don't want to push her away nor do I want to let her get too far away. Anyone else at a loss?
2006-11-20 15:17:28 · 4 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, repost, but internet went all crazy and the Q got all jacked up. Anyways, before you ask, yes this woman is worth every ounce of energy I have left.
2006-11-20 15:18:33 · update #1
You need to sit her down and discuss it with her. If she's worth every ounce of energy you have left, that's something SHE should know..tell her. Ask her why she gets in those ...is moods a good word?.......You have to communicate how you feel and what your thinking to her,....then she will let out what she's keeping in, then you guys can get back down to business. But you HAVE to talk to her about it. Women will not tell you what's wrong, you have to wheedle it out of them....it's not that they are being mean, that's just their nature. Trust me talk with her about it, be patient and LISTEN, and she will tell you everything.
2006-11-20 15:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be married to go to marriage counselling, and from there, it's possible for her to talk to the same counseller individually. Then, the counseller could try to help the situation between you.
Been there, done that. Long, long time ago. Still together.
Best of luck.
2006-11-20 23:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's worth that much to you then give her all the time and patience you have in you, don't rush things and I believe if it is meant to be it will work itself out. Good luck.
2006-11-20 23:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should plan a really romantic date and jsut let her know that you are there for her and tell her that no matter what happens you will ALWAYS be there for her!!! females want to know that somebody will always be there we are constitly worryed that we will be alone!!!!! just let her know that you love her and care for her and any help that is needed that you will do whatever!!! GOOD LUCK and keep your head up!!!!
2006-11-20 23:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by socerchic2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋