I met this chick at a club, things were great, she asked me to dance, and we exchanged phone numbers. Two days later I sms her to see if she wanted to grab a coffee or watch a movie and she replies, saying she wouldn't mind hanging out. I was looking for a more positive response, but i message back saying if she's too busy i'll talk to her some other time. She then replies, suggesting that friday is ok for her to meet up. When i suggest a time and place on friday she says it should be ok, but that she'll confirm it closer to the day. I like this girl but she seems neutral in her tone, i thought she would be more interested in meeting up.
2006-11-20 15:11:48 · 5 answers · asked by hegimony1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some girls aren't your stereotypical girls. they don't get all excited when a guy calls. they don't try too hard. they don't go after any guy that seems interested in them. don't expect every girl you're going on a date with to be the clingy, always want to hang out at the first chance kind of girl.
i say go out with her. she might be interested. and if nothing happens and you still think shes cool, you can be friends.
2006-11-20 15:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by extreme98 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can feel your frustration. Been in this conundrum before. If you seem overeager, you scare her off, yet if you write her off too quick because of her own flakiness you might miss out on a good thing. The thing that seals it in my mind is the "whatever" response of "she wouldn't mind hanging out" when you asked her out for a very non-committal coffee. So what to do? Meet her up in that you will be in the same place as her, but be sure to pay little to no attention to her. Pursue other options and smile all the way. That is usually the best way to deal with flakes. Not only will you have a good time but you will devote your energy to someone more worthy of your attention.
2006-11-20 23:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rckets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've lost nothing. Give her a chance to get together on Friday. If she blows you off, broom her. If she's not as interesting as she was at the club, then at least you know you're out nothing.
Methinks she's worth looking into, she's looking at possibly giving you a Friday, a big date night. There is some investment there.
Remember, don't be a wuss. If she gives you the runaround, don't play along. If you kiss her bootie you will get no respect at all. Women aren't attracted to doormats. Tell her your time window. If she's not available, leave her be. Look elsewhere.
2006-11-20 23:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she really IS busy and doesn't like making plans until she knows she has time?
If she blows you off last-minute and cancels your meeting, then it's pretty obvious she doesn't want to persue anything.
But if the meeting ends up being a go, you can always tell by her body language as to whether or not she's into you.
She may just end up being one of those girls who loves to flirt and attract as many guys as possible when she's out having a good time and doesn't want anything more right now.
2006-11-20 23:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You layed the ground work you did everything possible. I would leave her alone now to respond if she doesn't you know your answer and you don't look silly continuously calling her . she should let you know soon.
2006-11-21 00:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋