I'm having some financial troubles this month and he has a lot more money than me, but I never told him that I needed money! So I'm wondering where this came from, like if he talked to one of my friends and is just trying to be nice. Or if is this just some kind of control thing. Maybe I am being paranoid about it, but I have dated guys before that seemed so nice and then the next thing you know they buy you something and think they own you! What do you think?? guys and girls answers please! BTW we don't live together.
2006-11-20 14:43:02 · 18 answers · asked by cuteness 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Plus one of my friends thinks that he is just "testing" me to see if I am only dating him for his money....ya think?
2006-11-20 14:47:37 · update #1
if this is a test...dont fail by taking the money. i do think ths is about ownership more than anything. and many women can be bought. so this guy thinks that flashing some hundreds for rent will get him ownership over his new lady friend.
the only way i would take the money from him if it was a clear loan. and i would write out the details and give myself enough time to pay it off. test him with this. 3 weeks isn't very long to know someone and feel the need ot pay their rent. i just wouldn't take the money as a gift.
2006-11-20 23:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by sweetestnectar25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not enough info could be a control thing and could not. How long have you known him? Ask yourself that. Have you been friends for a long time before dating? He may just be being nice and it may not be hard for him to help you. Is this a loan? Is he a friend of your family? It just depends sometime people feel like you owe them something after this. You need to think about this and talk with your family.
2006-11-20 22:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take him up on it. especially 3 weeks into the relationship, you need to show your Independence. If you take the help now and you end up really needing help later, he might start thinking something of it. Besides, if it was a matter of money being no object, he'd probably just go pay it for you or leave you the cash with no option for you to say no or something. Tell him thank you, but you got this one! And good luck!
2006-11-20 22:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by Chiky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell hm no thanks and see what he says. Maybe he just heard you over talking or talked to a friend but if you tell him yes he might think that you are only with him for his money. I'm not saying he will it's just a opinion. Maybe if you ask him if he heard something that would insinuate that you needed money then he will tell you. Just ask him start off the relationship honest and without worries. These are just a few suggestions
2006-11-20 22:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concern about the control issue i don't blame you i should be too, but if you are having so much financial difficulty and he is trying to help i think is nice of him you should now by know (3) weeks has to how is he controlling wise....if you are so concerned about it i suggest that you let him help you (if your financial situation is that bad) then make it a note that you are paying him back in $$ . Follow your heart and your gut....Good luck...
2006-11-20 22:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by karaya6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your instincts are warning you so listen to them. Why are you going to take money from this guy? Is he even your steady boyfriend? Do not be a gold digger. Pay your own bills and you will not owe anybody anything.
2006-11-20 22:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts. Just think of all the Judge Judy and Judge Mathis cases with this exact story. Sounds kind of wacky to me.
2006-11-20 22:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by chante 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take a penny from him. It would be one thing if you had been dating for a while, but three weeks is nothing. I can just see him throwing it back in your face later in the relationship.
good luck
2006-11-20 22:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by jelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really need to take this money, make sure it is understood that it is a loan only - not an invitation to move in or payment for future favors.
2006-11-20 22:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 weeks and he offers to pay your rent? That sounds too good to be true, so it probably is. He's most likely some weirdo or Skitzo or something. Don't do it.
2006-11-20 22:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by keith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋