2006-11-20 14:30:10 · 24 answers · asked by curiosity 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is okay to dance with others. Following the rather old fashioned codes of etiquette for this sort of thing though, anyone who wants to dance with you should ask his permission. Just make sure you're not neglecting him, and go socialize with him between dances. I'd find out WHY he hates to dance. If it's just because he doesn't know how- maybe taking a class together would be fun.
2006-11-20 17:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a tough question because your boyfriend is ignorant.(Not an insult - just means he lacks the knowledge.) Since he doesn't dance he doesn't know the culture. You, I, and the rest of the dancers all know that dancing with lots of other people that aren't your significant other is perfectly okay, as long as it's clear that you aren't there to hook up with anyone. What kind of dancing are you talking about? Is it that shake your booty dirty dancing stuff that's all the rage now? Or something more traditional and conservative? That will have some say.
Maybe you should find out WHY he doesn't like to dance. Is it hard physically for him to do it? Does he dislike the music? Does he "lack rhythm?" If it's the rhythm thing, classes will help. They are fun and they really help. If you are there, then it will make it that much easier. Entice him with a sexy dance that lets him get close to you. I'd say Tango, but that's HARD. Waltz is EASY. Try that. Or Bachata!! THAT is a sexy EASY dance. Once you have him doing an easy close dance, you'll more likely get him to try more fun energetic dances like swing.
As to the question, it really depends on HIM. If he has a problem with it, then you should respect his wishes. But he should be open to at least listening to your side. Let him watch (at least once) to see what dancing means to you.
2006-11-20 23:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend does not like to dance, you should make sure it is okay with him that you dance with others. He may not approve of that and it would certainly offend him if you were to dance with other guys.
My ex did not hate dancing but basically, he couldn't dance. He was sort of dorky on the dance floor and felt ill at ease dancing, so he would never dance. However, he did not want me to dance with anyone else. Why did we even bother to go? But I did see his point because I certainly wouldn't have liked it if he danced with other women.
2006-11-20 23:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if your communicate and ask your boyfriend. Suggestion for communication: You ask your boyfriend "Do you like to dance much? or "You don't really care for dancing do you" He will reply "No". You then go on to say "You know I really enjoy dancing, and that you are my date/boyfriend/care for you only etc. and go on to express...would you mind if I danced with any other guy just to share in dancing. By stating it to him this way you are reassuring him that you aren't looking to dance to flirt with some other guy...you would be simply dancing with another simply for the sake of enjoying dancing. Hopefully he will be appreciative enough that you were attentive and thoughtful of his feelings and will enjoy seeing your enjoy dancing. Just end the dance with any other respectfully, don't linger with that other person and keep returning to your boyfriends side and reassure him through hugs, pleasant conversation etc.
2006-11-21 00:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better you don't. He will definitely get jealous. If you really love to dance, you should find a guy who loves to dance as your bf. This incompatibility of interest will be the cause of troubles if you're married to him. If you still want to marry him, you have to give up dancing.
2006-11-21 01:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck Yea. If he can't dance and don't want to try /learn by all means dance with other guys. He should get the message GET WITH IT OR MOVE OVER!!!!! All he's got to do is get up and move to the rhythm. No one will notice him unless he breaks out in a really wild funky dance like in a John Travolta movie
2006-11-20 22:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can dance with your female friends, but it's very impolite and disrespectful for you to dance with other men. If this is a huge problem in your relationship, I'd advise you to find someone who will dance with you, but if it's only a small downside in an otherwise wonderful relationship, try a bit harder to draw him out of his shell or satiate your dancing needs with your friends. =/
2006-11-20 22:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by K-Rex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not okay and don't make it important. The answer directly above is a disgrace. Show some respect. There are a lot of qualities in a man that are more important than dancing.
2006-11-20 22:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Do you know how to dance? For example, waltz, foxtrot, samba, merengue,rumba etc?
Because I do I have often been asked to dance by woman. That meant I had to ask my wife or escourt for permission. She could decide ettiquette doesn't give the man the right to refuse. Also you need to ask your escourt's permission before asking another man to dance (and vice versa)
2006-11-20 22:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sid B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. What does his not liking to dance have to do with you? If you enjoy dancing, you should as much as you like. If he wants to restrict you then he is selfish and immature.
You might want to evaluate the quality of your relationship. The idea of a relationship is to be happy and have fun...not to own someone.
2006-11-20 22:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋