My girlfriend really like me, infact she loves me. just recently we started going a little further than making out. i've fingered her a few times, but no further than that. she wants to pleasure me sexually, but she's kind of afraid. i've talked to her and she says her problem is, is that she never really had any experience with it, and by experience i mean that she hasn't even had a sex ed class or anything, so she really doesn't know anything about the penis and doesn't really know exactly what it looks like. so thats basically why she is scared, and we've talked about it and talked about my penis, but is there anything i can do to help her get over he small phobia?
BTW, she always starts to reach down my pants, but never goes all the way, i think she's whispered help me when she does this, but then she just backs out. i know i can't force her to do anything, but how can i help her.
2006-11-20 14:29:42 · 19 answers · asked by Striker MG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and i mean, i could be as forward as taking off my pants, but i don't think thats the right answer. should i just take off my pants? do you think she would mind?
2006-11-20 14:33:46 · update #1
i guess i should mention she's 18 and has never had a sex ed class.
2006-11-21 00:55:41 · update #2
honestly, I really think that she wants to be bold and sexy and she really wants to please you...but when it comes down to it, she is afraid and apprehensive and she just doesn't know what to do....not to mention that she is terrified of doing something wrong. It can be very scary. And don't force. Maybe a sex game is the best. You can play ones that give specific instructions. They are fun, sexy, and she won't feel so nervous and confused. If you are too young to buy one of these games than I suggest you lay off. You're too young anyways.
2006-11-20 14:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by sammytoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I in finding that extra guys consider now we have problems with penis sizes than we surely do. Personally, i'd most of the time think it was small but would not trouble me. If there was once chemistry and he didn't kiss me like a camel, i suppose we would get along :-) however i am married anyway. She could have had a tense experience with any one who had a penis that seemed like his or used to be about the dimension of his. Matters like that may trigger ppl enormous time if they have been abused. No longer making assumptions however it's a possibility.
2016-08-09 23:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not an uncommon thing. I would try to talk to her a little more but when it comes down to it and you love her...then patience is the key. There are alot of books you could get her or show her a movie that shows a penis...this might help her.
2006-11-20 14:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by AzMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she hasnt had sex ed class i suppose she is too young for it. Don't force her, she will take her time to open up. Just be patient, try coaxing.. and just showing it to her slowly.. and letting her uhm touch it. I honestly dont know why im answering this. Oh maybe its to get more points. I'm in the mood sigh.
2006-11-20 19:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by lipzykins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny..She lets YOU finger her but is not really sexually experienced not even a sex ed class in school. Sounds like she is in for SELF pleasure.
2006-11-20 14:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mara D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 09:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry guy but I think that she is hiding something from you. I know when I was in school we learned sex ed in the 5th grade and the kids now days learn in the 3rd and 4th atleast mine did.
2006-11-20 14:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first i am wondering if she is mature enough to be sexually active.If she is i think the next time she reaches in your pants,slowly take her hand and put it on your penis.If she get's scared and pushes it away,she is not ready yet.Be patient and see what happens.
2006-11-20 14:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by sugar_n_spice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actully its easy just 1) give her sex ed classes by ur experience or 2) accidently get out the shower or somthing and ur naked and she sees it by accident but after awile shell get over it
2006-11-20 14:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by sheromaroo2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a loser...Why should he have to take off his pants for her to see a penis...It must be right between his eyes...
2006-11-20 14:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by foru c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋