my mom calls me fat- and says fat people are repulsive?

Question

I'm 5'6", age 16, and 132 lbs. My mom is constantly telling me I need to lose weight. She says I'm going to be obese if I keep eating a lot and then I will never get married or anything because fat people are repulsive. this really hurts my feelings because I think I'm good the way I am. And my sister is age 19, 5'7" and 115 lbs. My mom is constantly praising my sister and often tells her to give me weight lose tips. And when people come over for dinner my mom is the worst. she will moniter my food portions and tell the people how she praises my sister for her weight and how I need to exercise more! What can I do to stop this? I've tried telling my mom I am who I am, but she doesn't care! Eating is like a disease to me. It makes me sick. Because I know if I don't do something right, my mom will disown me.

Answer 1

you are certainly not fat! not even on the fat side of normal; ur sister is just underweight; tell your mom to get over it :-/ peace.

Answer 2

I want you too imagine two people , one 132 pounds and muscular and one 132 pounds and not , obviously one person has more fat than the other , the difference of weight being one person has more muscle and less fat , the other less muscle and more fat , as you can see weight isnt the issue its how much ratio of fat too muscle you have , so in fact you could weight 132lbs and be quite slim looking as a toned body has that look of thiness even though the total weight would be the same as someon who is fatter but weights the same .

the answer is ..excersise , cardio will get rid of the fat and lifting weights will build up your muscles , also change you diet ..too onw that includes lean protein ,good fats ( olive oil etc ) and plenty of good carbs ( fresh vegatables and fruit etc ) also drink plenty of water about 8 glasses a day . before you know it your body will change shape even though you total weight might not change too much you will look and feel better .

Answer 3

My dear girl, your mother has serious problems which I suspect have nothing to do with you.

The first thing you should do is go to your doctor and have a check-up, at which time your doctor will weigh you. Ask your doctor what is the ideal weight for your height. I think you will find that you are certainly not over weight.

Once you have that information, you have ammunition for when your mother starts her nasty comments to you. Stay calm and tell her that the doctor says that you are the right weight for your height. When she says it again, just repeat the same statement "My doctor says I am the right weight for my height". Say it to yourself ten times a day and say it to her whenever she brings it up.

WARNING: I suspect that once you have stopped reacting to your mothers mean words about your weight, she will start to criticize something else about you. Be prepared, do not let her continue to mentally abuse you.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

If anything, your sister is underweight and your weight is healthy. I would print off a report somewhere about anorexia/bulimia and a chart that demonstrates normal body mass index and post it on the refrigerator door. I would talk to your school counselor about this, so that they can deal with your mom, and treat this is a serious matter. Your mother is very insecure and needs to pick on someone. You have to stand up for yourself and let her know that you have a healthy, positive self-image.

Answer 5

Your mother is being emotionally abusive to you and your sister. I agree with the other answers, she needs counselling. I had an emotionally abusive mother and I had years of counselling to counter the effects and to build up my self esteem. You can not change your mother. You can't make her love you more or stop the abuse. It is a very painful situation for you and you have all my sympathy. You need to learn to wear an invisible sheild of self protection like a raincoat so that the hurtful things she says don't get through into your heart. Give yourself mental hugs and learn to mother yourself. We believe our parents when they tell us stuff but please remember - mothers can be wrong. She is wrong about this.

Answer 6

my dad told me that when i was young and i know how it feels to not want her see u eat. dont listen to her at all tell her if you love me then u love me for who i am and tell her if you dont have anything good to say dont say it at all. no matter if your skinny or overweight u will still find someone that loves u the way u are. Im sure your mom aint perfect eather she prob. got strech marks and celulite and her boobs may sag alot more then yours!and she has no right saying this stuff when people come over to your house. tell her if she keeps saying this stuff that u are just going to start throwing your food up right in front of her. (but dont really do that)

Answer 7

And people wonder why teenagers have eating disorders....You are NOT FAT...you are beautiful just the way you are. I am sorry that you Mother is doing this to you. I am willing to bet she obssesses about her weight, and she is trying to teach you to do the same. I know she is your mom and you love her (as well you should). You are just fine the way you are!!!! Marilyn Monroe would be considered FAT by todays standards, and she was very beautiful!

Answer 8

I am so sorry to hear that. Your mother life is not where she wants it to be. I believe there's a problem within her., It sad to hear young people have to deal with that at school and turn around and deal with it at home. Pray for your mother and keep praying for her don't stop, keep doing it ever day. Ask God for help and you will get it. Also pray for your sister too.

God Bless

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Answer 10

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