i GREW UP IN A FOSTERHOME AND THE PEOPLE TREATED ME REALLY SHITY, SO WHEN I MET MY REAL FATHER I WAS HOPING FOR A BIG CHANGE IN MY LIFE, ONLY HE'S BECOME A DEVIL BECAUSE I HAVE NO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS HE HOLDS THINGS LIKE , ALL MY CLOTHES, iDS , BIRTHCERTIFICATE eVERYTHING, hE WANTS ME TO BE COMPLEATLY DEPENDENT ON HIM, HE WON'T LET ME HAVE A BOYFRIEND , i'M OVER 21 i DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO , HE KEEPS LOCKS ON THE DOORS AND BECAUSE i CURRENTY HAD A BOYFRIEND HE RIPPED THE PHONE OUT OF THE WALL, HE'S CONTENT WITH ME SITTING IN THE HOUSE ALL DAY, i TOLD FAMILY MEMBERS BUT THEY ARE AFRAID OF HIM, i'M REALLY THINKING ABOUT KILLING MYSELF i DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO
2006-11-20 14:27:31 · 15 answers · asked by J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
LIke you said you are over 21. move get a job. Didn't the dept of family services have something for you to fall back on because you were in foster care? Talk to a couselor. You are grown ID birth certificates can be reaquired. Leave them and get your own. If it comes down to it request police help if you feel threatened. But, you are the one who is in control if you want to be.
2006-11-20 14:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If possible, leave, call the women's shelter, and they will help you to get back on your feet again. You sound like a survivor, so do what you know you need to do. You are 21 years old, so he cannot legally hold you there anymore. Being on your own may not be easier, but you'll have your freedom. Things will get better...you just have to take the first step.
This is your life he's messing with...FIGHT! He's taking away your chance for college, finding a good husband, having that house you want with the two-car garage, find a job you love, and forming your own family someday. Run away or fight your way through. Do whatever you have to, but do not give up on yourself. You deserve more, and you know it.
2006-11-20 22:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way at all to get away from this man? I'd get out of that house one way or another. I am sorry that you have had such a bad life growing up. That could be part of your feelings of helplessness. I see you have a computer maybe some way you can contact the police if you are locked in your room.Please don't try to harm yourself. Your whole life is ahead of you.Please return to this site and let us know how you are doing once you get out of there.
2006-11-20 22:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
J : You MUST get out of the situation by getting away from him - he's obsessed with having you and keeping you around. You are not property but a human being ! Get into a woman's shelter and seek help for recovering your I.D. etc, then, find a job to support yourself. If he comes around for ANY reason, call the cops or sheriff in. This type of situation will lend it self to physical harm - even, death. You can not talk nor reason with this type of personality - it's demented [sick] BIG time. So - RUN !!! Fast as you can ! This is akin to the movie Misery - but you are the star in it !!! Good luck to you, "J" . - you need it !!!
2006-11-20 22:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 21, why do you stay with him? Call an abuse hot line, they should be listed in your phone book. They can get you the help you need.
I would say for you to get a job if you can and move out. Do you have any friends you can stay with? I would also contact social services in your area (also in the phone book). They can tell you how to get help too. You are in an abusive situation and need to get out and never look back.
If he is actually locking you into the house so you cannot leave, call 911. That is called unlawful imprisonment and he will be arrested.
2006-11-20 22:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The next time you have the opportunity - GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! Break a window if you have to, but get out now!
He is breaking the law. This is called "Forcible Confinement" and is a crime!
You can get more clothes later, you can get copies of your documents. Go to the Police and a Police Officer will accompany you to your father's house to get your things.
Why don't you use your computer to contact the Police? Give them your name, the address where you are being held and ask them to come and get you immediately. Give them as much information as you can.
Be Strong!
Good Luck!
2006-11-21 01:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, suicide isn't the answer, and feeling sorry for yourself won't help you much either.
Now go talk to him, point out to him that he more than anyone has absolutely no right to control you because where was he all those years you were in care?
If he is that demanding and controlling you need to talk to someone for support - proffessionals.
Remember, that at 21, you are an adult and your choices are your own.
2006-11-20 22:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by tahanni 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call social services and they will escort the police in to get your personal belongings. However, being you're 21 you will have to live on your own and something tells me you just aren't ready for that, right? No Job. No savings. No Nothing? Maybe social services can still do something for you. Kiss my tax dollars goodbye!
2006-11-20 22:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T KILL YOURSELF!!!!!! try living with another family member, or call the cops, press charges he can't do anything to you. remember you are a grown up, go live by yourself, he is not the boss of you, you are Strong
2006-11-20 22:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
can you not just leave, ask for your stuff, if he wont give it to you then you call the police he can not with hold your IDS or birth certificate agaist the law. good luck
love kby xx
2006-11-20 22:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by kennyboy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋