Black and white together?????

Question

I need some honest opinions.......I am white and come from a family who never believed white and black people should date.They don't dislike anybody,but felt you shouldn't date outside your race.Today i was asked out by a black man.....he is very nice,soft spoken,well dressed.I like him and want to go out with him,but know my family won't approve.I haven't dated outside my race before,i am afraid what my family will say.Also i have a child.What do you think i should do?????Only serious answers please!

Answer 1

Oh honey. Do what's in your heart. I am white. Married to a black man. What's the difference? What is it about being with another race that is so bad? I don't even notice that my hubby is black and he doesn't notice that I am as white as a boiled chicken. LOL. It just gets to the point where someone will point out that your man is black and you will say.....oh yeah...so he is. So what of it?

Answer 2

I don't know, i would say not to do this. I mean its simple to say "o all that matters is if you really like him". But i would go with your family on this. Please Listen to me when i say this because i don't know how old the rest of these people are, who are giving you advice, but i can say being that I'm a little more experienced don't go out with him.

If things get serious what will it do to your family. I assume your child has a relationship with your family, is that at risk if they don't approve? Or what about his family. Will it hurt this mans family?
On top of that there is being socially out casted by friends and people you come across which could be felt by you child as well.

I don't know, i mean the way i look at it, i would say its just not the best thing in the world. I would say listen to your gut. Not what you want your gut to feel, but your gut alone.

What ever your choice i hope it ends up a good one.

Answer 3

Sometimes you just have to go with your heart of how you feel about a person, no matter what of color of skin. Do you feel attractive to him? Does he respect you? Does he cares about you? Does he know your family feelings about him? Are you at age to make your own decisons on who you date? That's really matter the most! If you are underage, then you have to go by the rules of your guardians or parents. My brother is white and his wife is black, same situation as yours, but he is happy and so is she. They love each other, and can't live without one another! That what is important! You have a child, first, protect your child,
not let the child to get attached to someone as a boyfriend until you are ready for marriage! Kids get hurt! People comes and People go and the kids will feel its their fault that someone else has left them too! Where is the father? Is he involved in your child's life? You see, moms and dads can be selffish, and not really look into the best interest in our children's life! When the child gets older, behaviors of unapprioate can be the situation if we parents don' behave properly! Be careful for your child's life and also when you do make the big decision of getting married, make sure that your partner in life is ready to be a father figure and know how to make a blended family work.
Take care!

Answer 4

It's a date, not marriage. Under the circumstance (of course should always apply anyway) take it slow to see if anything even progresses. There is no point in getting yourself or your family worked up if after a few dates you are no longer interested. Take it slow, if an when the time comes to involve your family (including your child) you and him can decide what to do together and you will have time to think about it.

Answer 5

The fact IS, that Blacks and Whites, repoduce "The Perfect" child or children.
And there is nothing wrong with a inter-racial
relationship. I have one. With 2, very beautiful/handsome , Very Intelligent children who get along Very well with people of all nationalities. And we are Very Happy and a successfull Family !!!

A Most Excellent Question !! You should be applauded for such a Question !!

Thank You.

Answer 6

You are the one who knows the answer to this question- Do you think its worth it? If its not to you then dont do it. I think if you have to question it then there is an issue in that itself. You nor him deserve to be treated badly for any reason. I have a friend who is a black male he dates white women- a black woman at my work didnt like that at all- the judgment comes from many different directions- but...... on the other hand if someone is good to you that should be enough. YOU know what you should and shoulndt do. :)

Answer 7

I think the most important thing here is pleasing yourself and not necessarily your family. If you like this man and want to date him then I feel that your family's input into your relationship shouldn't matter.

Put it this way....if your family love you and want you to be happy then they should be able to respect your feelings and stand back and let you date who you want, no matter what race or colour that person is. You never know...they might actually welcome him with open arms....

Good Luck and I hope it all works out for you:-)
xx

Answer 8

Nope, that is purely that, a non-black or white human being is bashing blacks and whites and the whites are protecting whites and the blacks are look after blacks so, blacks and whites are literally not extremely getting alongside they purely take position to be on an similar question protecting their race.

Answer 9

Well I'm black and my mom tells me the exact same thing. But what I have to say for you is that if you really like this guy go for it. Just sit down with your parents and talk to them about it. Don't date the guy behind their backs or you won't be able to see this guy again. But just a extra few words for you, "Love knows no Race."

Answer 10

Well you should do what you want. You family can not live your life for you or you can allow them to. I think you should not deny yourself happiness. You should go out with him but it does not mean you have to sleep with him but maybe one day you may want to and it is no person's business but yours. But always put your child first and dont trust any man around your child.