Like nothing else. Any advice?

Question

Ok. If you want the whole scoop, you can read any or all of my Q's. I bet there are 100 about all this stuff. Anyways, here's the abridged version: we start going out, hit it off HUGE! Not sparks, fireworks. Things going great. Few months pass, she grows distant. We talk. And talk, and talk. You get the idea. For the next 3 mos, it's hit or miss w/ her, my feelings grow deeper. And I really think hers have to for me. Turns out she's got something in her past between us, not her fault, but she's not past it, either. I know this much but don't know specifics. I have ideas based on her approach to me (we start to get close, she backs away, we get closer, she shies further away. Bizzare) But, now she has decided it is best if she is single right now as she claims she "will only hurt me" which I think she really believes yet she texts me like crazy. I want to be w/ her and will lay it all out for her soon. My Q: since she won't tell me what's in the way, can I tell her I may already know?

I have seen the woman she is hiding from the rest of the world and that is who I fell in love with. She is being hidden behind this event, whatever it is and am willing to do just about anything to help her set herself free from it.

Answer 1

You can tell her, but honestly, you may just need to step back and let her deal with her issues or this thing will go on and on and on. Sometimes things work out, sometimes they don't and that's the harsh reality. You need to ask yourself if you REALLY want someone with baggage. It's a tough thing when you get attached, but see what happens if you just disconnect from her as well. Disinterest sometimes can do the strangest things.

Answer 2

Remind her that trust and honesty has to be in any relationship - friends, lovers, marriage........
her past is her past and before you but is a hinderance to your future whatever level it is on.....
it is wrong for her to backoff like wants to be friends and pursue you by text........
needs to be upfront with you now or discontinue this relationship.

If she really cares, this will make her realize the chance of loss.....
if does not respond, there is your answer.

If cannot open up with a close friend - nuff said!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I think it would be ok to tell her that you may know what is holding her back. If you are right, she may then allow herself to be with you. She may feel as if you understand her and love her for who she is.

Answer 5

bro just dont push her just allow her to come to u and dont try to fix it just be thier for her. just keep loveing on her.who know maybe she became a beliver or changeing who u knew from the past and makeing better choices than what she had made from her past.

Answer 6

If you know what the problem is, and have a possible solution, tell her.