Is watching pornography a sin?

Question

Do you think that pornography as an educational tool to show a Christian couple how to find pleasure in each other's bodies is a sin? Obviously we are not experienced in such matters and are recently married and are ignorant of the ways of the world. Would anyone know where to find Christian pornography that would depict a religious married couple who find pleasure in trying to mulitply according to God's word and also want to instruct their Christian brothers and sisters in love making techniques that adhere to the Christian code of ethics?

Answer 1

Check out the book Cliff and Joy Penner's "The Gift of Sex". It was recommended to all married couples in our church by our pastor. The best advice is to actually (horror of horrors) talk to each other and find out what each thinks about different positions etc.

As for the films, don't bother. They do not promote healthy sexual relationships rooted in love and tenderness towards each other.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Watching pornography itself is not a sin but I doubt if is much use as a sex manual either.

The problem with it is that too often it involves coercion of people, and just like prostitution the person most likely to be coerced is a woman.

I know people will disagree strongly with me but I have in mind the late Linda Lovelace of 'Deep Throat' fame who was portrayed at the time as a free liberated woman doing what she wanted.

It turned out later that she had been subject to coercion, both physical and financial.

As far as I know Christan ethics, at least in the Bible, speak of no sin between married couples except onanism (which is of course not really 'between a couple') and buggery which is easy enough to steer clear of.

Within those fairly wide constraints you should be able to find your way to fulfilment.

If this is true, or even likely to be true, do you not have some misgivings about using it for your own pleasure?

Answer 4

Well, I've got news for you... watching people have sex in an R-rated movie is morally exactly the same. It's just that pornography is an easier target, so people don't focus on movies. Biblically, to answer the question of why it is a sin, it is lustful. And according to Jesus's words in Matthew 5:28, when you look at someone with lust in your eyes, you have already committed adultery with them in your heart. Not to mention that watching pornography is a very strong addiction, one which is nearly impossible to stop once it has been started. In my humble opinion, it is one of the things that has destroyed marriage in this country, because people are so used to lusting after so many different people that it becomes impossible for them to love only one person.

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Answer 6

from a christian point of view, i would say yes, it is a sin because lust is one of the 7 deadly sins. I would interpret this as meaning that no-one should lust after another person at all (even a husband and wife) as it is seen as giving in to desires of the flesh and that sex should only be used for reproducing, not for enjoyment.
My personal view is that it is not sinful at all, but I dont believe in god.

Answer 7

Oh, man do not try this. I pray you have not started down this road. Trust me I have seen my fair share to my dying shame. I wish I had never looked. In my depravity I thought I could learn techniques to please her more, but the truth was I was trying to rationalize my sin.

Here is all you need to know to find sexual pleasure with your mate. Try anything you both find pleasing and nothing you both cannot agree on. Bed secrets should stay between you and her. Never discuss what you both do as it is no one Else's business. You both have added a whole new dimension to your lives. Better see what it has hidden all about it. Start with the toes and work our way up. Leave no stone unturned.

Answer 8

in christianity,it is a sin for that.not that only is it a sin,but you are lusting over another body and than getting aroused with your mate.thus the video gets you activated.and your wife cannot get your life aroused or whatever,and you need a movie to get aroused.that is lusting and that is a sin.the way the christian bible says,thou shalt not lust,is one of the ten commandments.so yes it is a sin to follow this life.i hope this answers your question.
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Answer 9

I recommend those really erotic ones Emmanuelle (1974) (sorry I don't know any more recent than that, and they were old when I saw them) When my husband and I started out, these were ones we both liked. although not very Christian, I'm afraid. I don't think that there are any Christian "porn". Mostly about love devotion and noble endeavour.

There was this story once, about this one medieval maid who seduced a knight, and the monk allowed it since she did it in order to conceive a child by him (the knight). But I don't think they made a movie about it.

Experience tells me that first few (or more) times will be awkward, but that only means that there's room for improvement. It is good that you are starting out considering one another's feelings. Explore with your eyes closed if you feel too self-conscious. If you kiss, putting your hand on your lover's head is a sign of not only great affection, but also one of blessing, which is also used between parent and child. It is a very powerful thing when you are aware of its influence, and will open up to you the world of healing and love.

If you put your hand on your lover's neck, it shows a sign of submission and power together, which is even more significant, for it shows that your mate trusts you with this part of themselves that is actually very vulnerable to attack. It is here that animals seek when going for the quick kill.

To disrobe one another slowly or frantically, or not to disrobe at all is a step by step process that you may want to watch or you may want to hide. See how comfortable your mate is with that, with the lights on or dim lights, like candles, or in the dark. To make oneself naked to the other is another power move that will stay with the founding blocks of your relationship. How you treat one another here is how you can begin to grow, or begin to crush.

Answer 10

Couples have been having fun and pleasure for as long there have been humans whilst reproducing! Does your sacred marriage really need the teachings of shameless prostitutes who have had a thousand partners?