Why do I shake when I get mad?

Question

Sometimes when I get mad, I start shaking. I've never been in a fight, so I don't know if it's nerves or what. I get really nervous when someone confronts me. Is this normal? I really need some advice. I feel that because of this I've kind of become a doormat for people. How do you overcome this?

Answer 1

Some dogs are alpha dogs. They are born with the natural inclination to be a leader. They have no problem confronting other dogs and fighting for what they think is rightfully theirs. At the opposite end of the spectrum, some dogs are epsilon dogs. They are the lowest in the pack. They are naturally inclined to think all the other dogs are above them and that they must have the permission of everyone else to eat, sleep drink, and in fact, they get very stressed when there isn't another dog to tell them what to do. They are natural followers.

People are much the same way. Unlike dogs, we may, and should sometimes, force outselves into social roles which we have no natural inclination towards. This often creates stress for us.

Alpha people get stressed when they're not in control. Epsilon people get stressed when they are placed in a position of great responsability over other.

You are not naturally inclined to confront people. Even when you make a conscious effort to assert yourself, you're not naturally geared for it and it stresses you. When they are not agreeable it stresses you more. You are probably a very nice person who naturally is more geared towards seeing yourself as an equal or sub-ordinate of another person and when you see yourself as an equal and afford them something they do not reciprocate, it offends you. That is also why you shake.

Now here's the solution. Keep asserting yourself when you feel someone is trying to take advantage of you. You can be polite and still let people know you are not one to be taken advantage of. If you don't stand up for yourself, you're right, you will be treated like a door mat.

Answer 2

Adrenelin does this. In prehistoric times our ancestors had to be ready to run toward the deer or away from the cave bear; in historic times it was running away from the invading troops, or toward the town/fortress/village you are storming. Today when physical violence & physically violent responses are fortunately not as common as they were in the past for most of us, the adrenelin & associated other hormonal response (so called fight-or-flight response) no longer serves the former function, but instead needlessly increases stress levels & makes it more difficult to think clearly or to keep our muscles relaxed (& ready for work) all of which is a tiring process that accomplishes nothing except to interfere with the normal maintenance processes which maintain our health.

What to do?

I recommend meditation. This is how I have gained greater control over myself, and stay calm when once I would have been just in the same adrenelated state - all wired up & can't think straight. The style of meditation is not that important; the important thing is to do it every day. Meditation settles the mind, which is where the whole process begins; a thought develops into a feeling which causes the fight/flight response. By settling the mind, & watching its contents closely every day, every hour, every minute, etc. we can start to understand our minds, and start to control and improve what we are doing to ourselves.

Peace to all,

;-)

P.S. This is only one adapted set of instructions to get you started. Good luck!

INSTRUCTIONS

• Relax and focus on any meditation object. [such as the breath]

• Keep the spine straight & the head upright. Closing the eyes may help.

• Every few seconds, name the most obvious thing in the mind, whether it is important or not: "sore knee ... hungry ... TV ... money ... traffic...."

• Don't lose contact with your basic meditation object. Spend at least half the time with it, and check that you're actually relaxing. In fact, go as deep into the object as you can without ignoring the peripheral thoughts and sensations.

• Notice how the scenery changes the deeper you relax.

• Notice that when you wait for thoughts, they often don't come!

• Enjoy the calm impersonal quality of the clear mind.

(thanks to Eric Harrison, an australian meditation teacher who wrote the book "How Meditation Heals")

Answer 3

It sounds to me like your heart rate increases and your blood pressure is affected also. I know I get very jittery during any altercation or any confrontation at all. I've never been in a fight either, but every little confrontation makes me shake so I find that I have the same problem. I have a hard time standing up for myself, and often let people walk all over me just because I hate to run into a situation where I will get very angry.

Answer 4

Your body's getting ready for what's termed a "Fight or Flight" response-adrenaline's kicking in in your bloodstream...and You're being pulled between gettin'outta Dodge,or having a showdown.If You're Shy,You may not be too confident with the confrontation aspect,and I don't know how You react physically to a threat.
You need to build up your confidence,make more friends,maybe try Martial Arts to direct that Energy in a useful direction..at least You'd have someone at Your back in that awkward situation..Good Luck..

Answer 5

I really dont know but if it makes u feel better i Shake also. Ive also never been in a fight but when i get mad i shake uncontrollably. maybe its because it gets our blood flowing and maybe deep inside we are afraid. Just dont let this ruin ur life. Im sure there are many other people out there that have this too. smile and enjoy life to the fullest :)

Answer 6

I do it too. I've only done it a couple times when I've been really mad. It just our body's telling us to take a chill pill (not a literal pill). It's a start of an anxiety attact. Remove yourself from the situation and take some deap breaths.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

sumtimes an excess of adrenaline or other hormones can make u shake and so that might b causing ur problem. being angry causes a lot of hormones and so an excess would cause shaking possibly.

Answer 9

no it is adrenaline...

born from the flight or fight situation encountered by our ancestors.

you cant control it, you can accustom yourself to the situation that is about the best you can do

Answer 10

Hormones, they pump you up and when you don't exert much movement or force your muscles start shaking.