Relationship question. My girlfriend of the past 4 plus years is behaving strangely. We have been on and off again for the past year plus. We split up per her decision of not trusting me, although she was the one being secretive with new friends, hanging out with different crowds etc. Facts are that she has shared herself with another, maybe more than one guy. I have also done this with a woman as it was a one night stand. From snooping I found that she had developed feelings for this gent. as he was a true player and used her for the sex. I am trying to get back into her life now, she is accepting the time and care I give to her but seems she is incrediblyt selfish. She has time for me when her friends dont have a "night out planned". I see pics of her being warm and friendly to many old college friends, male of course. She gets numerous calls, voice mails and takes her phone with her everywhere. AM I A FOOL to pursue her as she is, was the best love of my life???
2006-11-20 14:05:16 · 12 answers · asked by snolt2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would walk away now. She's done enough damage already. You've both been with other people, therefore that should be a sign that you're not into each other as much as you used to be. You always want what you haven't got or that 'one who got away' but I can tell you from many bad dating experiences (and going back to men after a breakup) it's not worth it. Let this one go - if she's meant to be with you she'll grow up and realize it and DUMP all the rest. You deserve more than to be treated like "second best" to everyone else. There's lots of women in the world who want to treat their man with respect, kindness and most of all loyalty. Don't waste more time on this, Ms. Right is waiting out there for you somewhere!!
2006-11-20 14:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Peach 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
boy: You said it - "was" - "the best love of my life" ! It's over between you two. It took 4 years for the candle to burn down and snuffing time has arrived. You call her the "BEST". I think what you need to say is, one of the best - because you aren't on your death bed yet ! There are other girls [women] out there and you haven't tried them all to compare your ex with them. Chances for you and her to become an item again are like trying to blow warm air up a dead horse's a** to revive it ! The problem with going steady while you are young is the time when the break up finally arrives. It is usually very hard and cruel for one partner and no problem for the other. Pack-it-in with her before a war starts! Good luck to you.
2006-11-20 14:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"All good things must come to an end"-some famous person probably.
Sounds like she's not the same girl you fell in love with. Based on the information provided I would say yes, you are a fool to pursue her.
It has been presumed by someone that we have three great loves within a life time. Being that I am no longer with the one who was "the best love of my life", I choose only to agree with this, move on and start anew.
2006-11-20 14:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, yet I very just about did.. the activity I definitely have now, and that i for my area had to talk with myself in spite of if or not I ought to bypass away the activity i could been at for 2 years to tak of venture on it, besides the undeniable fact that it exchange right into a as quickly as in a life-time possibility. so I swallowed my inhabitions and went for it... happy i did now too. i assume it;s basically a rely of recognizing the rarity of an possibility while it comes alongside.
2016-10-22 11:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by agudelo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you she still cheating and she don't plan to give it up for you not anyone else. you need to drop the headache and find someone you can be proud to say this is my gal. and have fun with, and know she feels the same way about you. so life is to short to hold to maybe when you can find the sure thing out there. consider this as an experience that can help you with your future relationships
2006-11-20 14:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by ckayisme61 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts to love one that is not in love with you obviously. BUT......time to move on. IF she loved you in return, she would have never gone out on you and treated you the way she did. As the saying goes...there are alot of fish in the sea and alot of people just want someone to be there for them through thick and thin. Good luck to you.
2006-11-20 14:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by fun4u2 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only you could answer that. my advice on relationships is take a step back and ask yourself i you would regret more not doing something or doing. Would you feel that you let the "one" go if you left, or would you feel that you let go of a chance to find a true love who will feel the same for you. Good luck
2006-11-20 14:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Probably wasting your time....Just cancel her contract and start dating some hotter and cooler chicks and when she sees that you've moved on she will come running back and then you do whatever you want because you will be controlling the situation. Ignore her and let her believe she doesn't exist to you and then you can turn the tables on her. If it was me, I would just focus on meeting some nicer, more sincere, more beautiful, more passionate, and more fabulous women. They're out there.....just focus on them and they will start to show themselves...
2006-11-20 14:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if the relationship is going to work, she has to do a lot of changing. You deserve to be with someone who is devoted to you. It really sounds as if she just isn't that in love with you anymore.
2006-11-20 14:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she has changed. I suggest to stop having sex with her (if you did). Before you catch any diseases.
Yeah, go ahead. Walk away.
2006-11-20 14:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by Mattman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋