I'm begging you to help me out here....?

Question

i really really like this guy.. for like 3 years now. and at some point, i'm pretty sure he liked me too. we started out as friends, talking at parties and such... and he'd made attempts to hold my hand and made jokes about "the two of us". but a few years have gone by now and i only see him in the halls. i can almost "feel" the connection from the past. and he'll focus on me in the crowd, and is extra quiet around me. and if we ever talk, he'll stare at my lips. (my friends tell me all this- before they even knew i liked him) he's really shy and according to my friends, doesn't treat anyone like he treats me. he's had a few girlfriends before, but they've always been the ones to ask. anyway, i was wondering how i could get him to loosen up around me WITHOUT actually asking him out right away. (that would be awkward since i haven't talked to him for so long). once we get reaquainted that would be more appropriate... also, do you think he likes me?

Answer 1

find really simple ways to be together in a group.......such as
ballgames, church activities, local hangouts, mutual friend gatherings......
since you were friends in the past or share mutual friends this will ease the pressure to approach because you will be one among many........
take the initiative and say something to him even in passing.....smile his way from time to time for this will ensure approachability........
if interested opportunity should present itself enabling a chance to talk .....
start off small not expecting too much right off the bat and therefore not coming away dissapointed......
if nothing else could have a chance to become good friends again and in a time when good friends are hard to come by - appreciate!

Answer 2

try to get to know him better again, and maybe he'll ask you out if he really really likes you back. go to a romantic movie or ice skating (try to not look so great so he can help you) or something with a group of people and him (make sure you sit next to him). maybe he likes you, but don't get your hopes up -- were his other gfs before or after u came into the picture? Good luck, whatever happens!!

Answer 3

Start hanging out with him more in a group kind of setting. Ask him to go to the movies with you and a few other friends for example, or even ask him to eat lunch with you and your friends.
Hopefully that will help you get more used to each other and give you enough time to work up the guts to ask him out.

Answer 4

Well do you expect a miracle?
What I mean is that you have to do something about it, you can't just wait and hope that some miracle will bring you together.
Ask him to come out with you and a big group of friends. No date awkwardness but if he does want to talk and spend time with you, he will accept.

Answer 5

First, I commend you for not making the first move!
Most "liberal" "feminist" types would tell you to just go for it, but you are doing everything right.

Keep talking to him, smiling at him etc. but talk to others too. Make him feel special and important, let him know you care. Compliment him on something specific. He'll come around, he just needs to feel safety and trust.

Best of luck!

Answer 6

Best thing to do is wait another three years, and then ask him if he was born with a defective jaw!

Answer 7

Talk to him about your situation he''l probably listen. Just because some boys are quiet doesn't mean they are nice they can be a pervert, molester, rapist, murderer, or anything else.

Answer 8

I think (from what I read) he likes you. I mean he really does. I haven't had it happen ot me but for some reason i can tell

Answer 9

Flirt with him and ask how's he doing, then ask him out!

Answer 10

um yes. totally