Control freak wife?

Question

My brothers wife is a control freak. She is making my brother miserable. It's affecting their young children. She gets mad at him for not doing enough around the house but when he offers to do things she says he can't because he does them wrong. She sleeps in every weekend and he gets up at 6am with the kids. He's not allowed to take them 1 block away to the park while she sleep because she doesn't want to be left out so they have to wait until she gets up. She won't let him have friends over. She checks the messages at the house and doesn't tell him if he gets calls. After the kids are in bed she makes him feel guilty if he wants to go for a run. She complains that she wishes she could go but she has to fold laundry. He offers to fold the laundry but she says he doesn't do it right. When we are all together at my folks for holidays. My brother and I like to run. We only go about 30min but he has to take his cell. If she needed help there's 5 other people in the house. Is she ill? Help

Answer 1

Your brother is obviously old enough to take care of his own problems if he sees them as problems. Do not interfere. It is none of your business.

Answer 2

This question is a bit confusing because it alludes that she is in control of things yet there doesn't seem to be anything she is controlling. First, she is responsible for her own actions so if her actions are affecting your credit and money situation, reach for the checkbook. Start taking control of the money by paying the bills yourself. While married, her debts are yours. Do some grocery shopping too so that you (and the kids if there are any) have decent food in the house. My advice is to take care of yourself, cook your own meals, etc. If you want out of the marriage you'll need to situate yourself so that the finances are in order.

Answer 3

Some people just like to control every aspect of their life and others have a napoleon complex. Then there are the obsessive compulsive. Only a doctor could help/diagnose but if she doesn't want help she won't get help, until she becomes a danger to herself are others.

Answer 4

When people talk about their spouses, they often exaggerate for sympathy. Of course you're going to be on your brother's side against the mean wife. But don't let yourself get involved or it's likely you'll make things worse between them.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Buy her the book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlesinger. I'm serious this book is awesome. I have it and I'm going to be a good wife to my man. :)

Answer 7

No, you have described every TV, movie, love song and just about everyone's story in the world. The funny thing is the other half of the story, it's they guy that is freaky.

Answer 8

Nice of you to care but this is your brother's problem. He will have to start asserting himself as a husband who is a partner rather than a husband who is a sub-ordinate.

If she has a problem with this they should seek marriage counseling.

Answer 9

He must insist on marriage counseling if it bothers him. It's his marriage and he has to decide how to handle it. Stay out of it. This marriage will not last much longer if he is any kind of a man.

Answer 10

Sounds like a mental illness to me. Poor guy, and poor wife.