Ok. If you want the whole scoop, you can read any or all of my Q's. I bet there are 100 about all this stuff. Anyways, here's the abridged version: we start going out, hit it off HUGE! Not sparks, fireworks. Things going great. Few months pass, she grows distant. We talk. And talk, and talk. You get the idea. For the next 3 mos, it's hit or miss w/ her, my feelings grow deeper. And I really think hers have to for me. Turns out she's got something in her past between us, not her fault, but she's not past it, either. I know this much but don't know specifics. I have ideas based on her approach to me (we start to get close, she backs away, we get closer, she shies further away. Bizzare) But, now she has decided it is best if she is single right now as she claims she "will only hurt me" which I think she really believes yet she texts me like crazy. I want to be w/ her and will lay it all out for her soon. My Q: since she won't tell me what's in the way, can I tell her I may already know?
2006-11-20 13:54:33 · 6 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have seen the woman she is hiding from the rest of the world and that is who I fell in love with. She is being hidden behind this event, whatever it is and am willing to do just about anything to help her set herself free from it.
2006-11-20 13:56:18 · update #1
If you really already know, yes, you can bring this to her attention. Move slowly though dear. Obviously she does not want you involved in this one too much...
2006-11-20 13:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by jandracu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been warned by HER. Back off and not get hurt. She isn't ready to be tied down to just one man.
She is playing the field and you are probably one of several.
Back off and see what happens. IF she is just playing a game with you like a lot of women do and IF she cares anything about you, she will come around.
Don't make a fool of yourself chasing the wind. Good luck. Pops
2006-11-20 14:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you just toss guesses out there as to what it is you might make a real *** out of yourself...if you say the wrong thing it might give her a bad impression of your perception of her.
If she wants to be single, she is single...nothing you can you...you made your case, and the other side won...tough break but there will be many more...
2006-11-20 13:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if it would be best if you gave her as much space as she needs. It doesn't sound like it is the time for you two right now.
2006-11-20 14:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by lavendergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her and make sure yor reactions to her reactions are completely honest.
2006-11-20 14:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by silknsteel02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly,i have no answer to this.
but just tell her exactly what you are trying to tell us.
Just tell her how you feel
2006-11-20 13:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by mint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋