my sister and her boyfriend live in different states but have maintained this hard relationship for 2 years now but my sister is always hanging out with a man that is in love with her. he knows she is "comitted" but keeps persuing. i feel as if her boyfriend should know but i don want to lose my sister.. i love her. should i mind my own??
2006-11-20 13:35:51 · 6 answers · asked by bossy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your sister has to come first! Back off-this is not your business & someday it could be the other way around! What is she was disloyal to you?
2006-11-20 13:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you acting out of jealousy? Your sister isn't married yet, or even engaged, so everything is fair in love and war. Don't rat her out, that is just despicable. What if you cost her the love of her life? And what if the love of her life isn't the one you think? Long distance relationships have a very high failure rate. If the boyfriend really wanted to make things permanent he would have made more plans with your sister before he had to leave. All that being said, if you know she really loves him, talk to her and be her friend. Perhaps she is really tempted and is trying, but is having a hard time. Offer to help. Remind her of what she already has and help her write a nice letter to him. Ultimately, she is the one who will have to choose. It's not your life, so it's can't be your business.
2006-11-20 21:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by musemessmer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know they say "blood is thicker than water". Your loyalty usually should go to your family...I am not saying that what your sister is doing is right BUT have you considered talking to your sister about this? you know, letting her know that her integrity is being compromised by her actions. Seems like a real tough spot for you to be in. I do think that this long distance guy should have a right to know...but who's to say he is not doing the same thing?
Do you know any of his friends that maybe you could drop a little bug in their ear?
I would definitely talk to your sister first..but remember this really is her decision..whether she is right or wrong!!
2006-11-20 21:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her live her own life, you can tell her how you feel but you needs to let her handle her own problems it will only cause problems...But I would continue to tell her how you feel....
2006-11-20 21:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stop
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2006-11-20 21:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him secretly
2006-11-20 21:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by confussed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋