okay, so my parents are being so sneaky and always in my privacy nowadays. my best friend or shall i say "boyfriend" is 16 & i am 13. we have known each other for about 3 years now. we went out a year or so ago but we had to break up because he had to move. he called me about 1-2 months ago and was all like, 'i can't get you off my mind & i miss you'. i believe him. he is the most wonderful kidd you could ever meet. he asked me if i still loved him. i, of course, said yes. he hinted that he wanted to get back together. and we did. 10.30.06 to be exact. my real problem is my parents. they think we are still best buddies. my dad hates him with a passion. he has never met him and it makes me so mad. my mum has met him and said she liked him but then she turned her back. now she doesn't like him. their main reason is that he is '16'. but now they are invading my privacy. they will stand outside my door when i talk to him. do they have the right to be invadin my privacy?
2006-11-20 13:23:12 · 8 answers · asked by kadyxcore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let them know that you don't think they're being very respectful of your privacy by doing what they're doing.
I hate to make it sound like blackmale, but is usually gets through to parents if you tell them that if they're evesdropping on your conversations, you may start to back out of the parent-child relationship and start sneaking around with your boyfriend. I don't mean it as a threat, but just let your parents know that you and your boyfriend care for each other and your parents can trust that you won't be doing anything "risky" or irresponsible, so they really have no reason to worry about you.
That's really why they do it. 16 year old boys have raging hormones and they're just worried that their 13 year old daughter may end up giving into her boyfriend. They really only want you to be safe. But at the same time, they need to respect your privacy.
Maybe you should be talking with your mom about why she went from liking him to not liking him, and find out why your dad doesn't like this guy he's never met.
Maybe that's the solution - you need to invite him over for a family dinner and a movie so the both of you can hang out with your parents and discuss things and they can get to know him. Maybe they'd realise that he's a really great guy and would never do anything to hurt their daughter, and they'd respect your privacy more if they trusted him.
2006-11-20 13:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 13 years old, yes, they have the right to invade your privacy. I know that you will not understand this right now but what you are feeling is infatuation, not love. It can become love but that involves maturation and growth. Your parents love you very much, trust that they will do what's best for you.
2006-11-20 21:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by crzyanl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how great the guy, three years is a big age difference for someone who is 13 years old. If you are keeping things PG-rated in your conversations, who cares if your parents overhear? The more you build your parents' trust, the more they will ease up probably. Let them see the maturity with which you handle this situation and how transparent you are in your relationship with the guy. If you are accountable to your parents and keep things within their rules it will pay off eventually. Just don't blow it before things pay off.
2006-11-20 21:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lyf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether or not they have to right isnt really anything you could change.. the thing you CAN change is the way they feel about him and their respect for your privacy. If i was in your situation i would sit down with my parents at the dinner table and discuss how they feel about your guy. And if you come to a comprampise suggest they have him over for dinner one day so they can meet him (that is if he has the guts). whatever happens,good luck!
2006-11-20 21:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Poptart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normall, I would say no, but they would be neglectful if they wreren't concerned about their 13 year old daughter dating a 16 year old. He's too old for you.
2006-11-20 22:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by lavendergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, they do have that right you are only 13 and you live with your parents, you both have to respect your parents rules they have set down for you. If this IS real love he will wait until you are older and your parents give their consent for you to date him
2006-11-20 21:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're still young and your parent wanna protect you from getting hurt. it's their reponsibility and love.
pls dont ignore them and if you do, their heart will hurt.
Some parent didnt cares much on their kids and you're lucky.
2006-11-20 21:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by peter71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u r only 13 so ur folks r a teenly bit over worried abt u . wat do u expect they r only being protective . may b if u don't behave suspiciously they might not get so hung up .
2006-11-20 21:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋