I have not really cried since i can't remember when. it's like there's a mental blcok. it's not like there is anything sopecific going on, just a pent up feeling that a good cry would help, but it's like there is a mental block. i have seen all the movies, heard the songs, read the poems, my eyes will get moist, but barely enough to wet the lashes and this lump gets lodged in my throat, but i can't cry. it's like something just shuts off. like there is a defense mechanism and i don't know how or when or why it appeared.
any idea how to turn it back on? how do i break down that wall and just get it out fo my system.
2006-11-20 13:08:22 · 23 answers · asked by tweedledee 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
just to clarify to all you matcho guys who keep commenting i am not man, i am a 21 year olf woman.
2006-11-20 13:19:22 · update #1
again Yes i want to cry... i do not know specifically at what point in my past the dam built up but it is now that i am becoeming aware of it. i am not sweating the small stuff, i just need t get this out fo my system already, it's painful.
and if someone can help me i cannot see any answers past the big boys don't cry genious.
2006-11-20 13:24:28 · update #2
thanx guys but so far nothing. i am really trying. anyone else?
2006-11-20 13:40:44 · update #3
let yourself go. dont think aobut making yourself cry. just wait. it will come when you least expect it and it will be good.
2006-11-20 13:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by klynbo2 2 · 10⤊ 1⤋
You might not need to cry; everyone expresses pain differently. It's all right to cry, though. It's just pain leaving the body. In my teenage years, I had been so afraid of letting my emotions show, but I have become more comfortable with weeping.
If you want to cry, I would suggest imagine something bad happening to somebody that you love.
Sobs are produced in the same way as laughter, except that your feelings are different.
2006-11-20 21:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by SF21 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel went through a divorce, I cried so much that I was cried out...When some people die I cannot cry..I hurt but the tears wont come...But if someone tries to hurt me verbal or what ever the tears come...Maybe your sub concience is afraid to open like a scab over a sore..If it is picked it will bleed...I am not answering your question but I know how you fee..................
2006-11-20 21:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not sure but maybe if you feel frustrayted you should find other vents for letting off steam. pucnh a boxing bag or somehting. do whatever it is that will let off huge amounts of energy. maybe talk to some one you trust or a counsellor ti figure it out if you think the problem is deeper.
2006-11-20 21:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Roxy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
when a horrible tragedy happened in my family, i cried alot but it didn't seem enough somehow, so i decided to clean my kitchen, spot by spot, scrubbing hard, Finlay i was get more and more active and aggressive, and it came to me, i screamed and cried and got out of my system, then i went to bed and slept like a baby for 16 hours, woke feeling very released, so u need to help breaking that wall, try doing some hard physical
activity , (that is why some women i know cry after sex, not because they r sad, they are just releasing emotion after a good workout)
best of luck..
2006-11-20 21:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 3⤋
You say that there isn't anything going on, but what went on in the past that left you jaded and dry in the eye? Chances are, if you figure that out and face it head on, you'll be back to bawling in no time.
2006-11-20 21:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by jamilu 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you watched The Notebook or a movie like your pain?
Have you thought about whatever is upsetting you while listening to a song that is suggestive of the same?
2006-11-20 21:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
stop being afraid to let it out and stop holding it in even if you think your not you are. Think deep inside the sadest thing to ever happen and just let it flow.
2006-11-20 21:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by lttlbt22 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you feel like you need to put on a strong, stony face for the world--or you unknowingly perceive it as weakness or something. I don't know. If it bothers you too badly, it wouldn't hurt to go to therapy.
2006-11-20 21:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by Casey 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
well when ever i have this problem i think about something horrible happening to my parents and i know this may sound bad but if you really play it out in your mind you will cry.
2006-11-20 21:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by iwearpink4life 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Something inside you prevents you from crying. Yeah that is fine, it sounds like you are a very strong and optimistic. God bless you! :)
2006-11-20 21:24:40 · answer #11 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋