OK HERE IT IS I HAVE BEEN WITH MY BF FOR 4 YRS MY EX JUST WALK BACK INTO THE DEAL AND WANTS TO GET BACK TOGETHER AND TO BE A DAD TO HIS LITTLE GIRL, AND THATS COOL. NOW WHEN WE TALK I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT US AND WHAT WE WERE LIKE THEM (7YR AGO) THE OTHER NIGHT MY BF AND I WERE HAVING SEX AND I FOUNF MYSELF THANKING ABOUT MY EX.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO
2006-11-20 13:06:08 · 5 answers · asked by jlw78418 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok more info, my bf has never been a dad to my daughter/ he can not even care for his own kid/ he has no job and dose not want one,
over the last few months 6+ we have grown apart the other night was the 1st sex we have had in 5/6 month, he dose not help with the bills they have moved in with me and i HATE it everyday.
2006-11-20 13:24:17 · update #1
Well it doesn't sound like u are having a great relationship with your bf, which is why u are finding yourself suddenly attracted to your x. You want back what u had before with him, but I think u want it for the wrong reasons. I would re-think your current relationship with your bf for sure, but as far as your x goes.........let him be a father to your child, and if u end up ending it with the bf give it time before u ever consider going back to your x. I think you may be just looking at him right now as an escape from what u are in. Give yourself time, just be alone and get your feelings in order before u leave one bad relationship to another that may be a let down. If in the future when u are happier u still find that u have feelings for the x, then give it a try, but at least u will know it is for real. Good luck :-)
2006-11-20 13:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him the power to just walk back in you and your daughter's lives. My ex left when our daughter was only 7 months old...didn't want me to have her and when I didn't do what he wanted he cheated then left us......he tried to come back 5 years later, but still would not confess. Stay with the one who has been good to you and there for your daughter.....appreciate what you have now, not what should have been with someone else.
2006-11-20 21:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by C S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that you need to sit back and figure out if you love your boyfriend, figure out the pro's and the con's of being with him. Then look at your ex. why is he your ex, where has he been for the past 7 years? and he wants to now be a good dad? people change but you can't always hold them to their word, does he wanna be a good dad just to get back with you or does he wanna do it for the little girl? I think about my ex's too but there is always a reason that they are ex's and not with me.. so sit back and look at life.. good luck
2006-11-20 21:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by julie43824 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think about why you aren't together, who has been a dad to your daughter the last four years. Your daughter has been being raised by your boyfriend for four years it would be unfair to tear her family apart for something that didn't work the first time and probably will fail again. Show your daughter what a committed relationship is by staying in one yourself. Be loyal to the man who has been loyal to you.
2006-11-20 21:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by mistypa12000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it seems like u like the boyfreind you have.. and then u and ur ex were talking and u seem u like him.. what u need to do is take a step back.. and need to look at this? which one do u see ur self going out with? why do u and ur ex have a connection? and when u thought about ur ex why? what were the conncetions? what i would do is that i would think abooout what i like about both of them and go from there i never had this problem before
2006-11-20 21:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by missy_princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋