boyfriend trouble HELP!!?

Question

I had this really nice guy ask me out, i like him but im afraid he'll move to fast. hes really sweet, i ask my friend what she thought she told me it was my choice.she said she liked him to but she didnt care if i went out with him. he would be my 1st boyfriend, and im 13 i need som good advice. my sis is in thee same school and i dont want her to find out, shes youger than me so u know how tht goes. i really do like him but im prep and hes emo and hes like my best friend i nkow if we broke up it wouldnt hurt our friend ship but im kinda afraid of what ppl would think. tht sound so mean and shallow. im srry. i might just be afraid of havin a bf since ive never had one. idk i just really need some help i have to tell him 2marrow. HELP ME PLZ!!!

Answer 1

Well, you said he was your best friend, so that's a good start. The best relationships always start out from a good, solid friendship, and if you feel like you're up to a relationship, I'd say to accept it.

But it really depends on how you feel about a relationship, In relationships you can't think, "Oh dear, what will people think if I go out with him?" You should be thinking more along the lines of, "Will I be happy if I'm with him? Will he treat me right and will our relationship be (somewhat) successful?"

It doesn't matter if you're "prep" and he's "emo." If you two like eachother for who you are, people should be able to accept the fact that you guys are accepting eachother, despite the differences.

He sounds like a nice guy, and if he really is your best friend, I'd say to try it out. But it's really up to you, you have to really think hard about things before going into a relationship. When you finally decide whether or not to date him, just be sure you guys are still friends during the relationship, or how you guys are now.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

if u really like him & if u trust him & if u know him since some time, become his g/f. if u think that ur friendship won´t be lost due to a breakup, u have not much to worry about.
however, if u feel he´ll move too fast, tell him u wanna take things slowly. a relationship tend to last longer when things are taken slower. don´t make him use u for pleasure & then ditch u. be careful! but all in all go ahead. but if it doesn´t work out, u will probably feel the need for a new b/f & another one after that. n then u will not trust any boys & tell guys are all crap. hence make sure that the guy who is about to be ur bf is a nice guy who will treat u good & who will stay with u. if u r unsure, remain good friends for some more time before u proceed as his gf.

i´m a 23yr old married man.

Answer 3

You're 13, believe me, you will have ALOT more boyfriends growing up. The 1st is always the most interesting boyfriend though. HOw long have you been friends with him?? If you really like him then you shouldn't worry if you dress prep and he doesn't. If you think he's going to move fast......IF YOU ALL DECIDE To become boyfriend and girlfriend then go ahead and tell him your LIMITS. As in....the only thing you will do is HUG and HOLD Hands, and THAT"s IT!

one thing you'll come to learn as you get older...........COMMUNICATION is the key to any relationship. Speak your mind to him. If he really likes you he'll respect you and your decisions...of course because you 2 are 13 year olds, it might have some immaturity in the relationship.
HOpe I helped some !

Answer 4

give it a go, you're still young. Think of it this way, will you be happy knowing you like him but never had the chance to be with him?

If he's moving at a pace that's uncomfortable for you then don't be afraid to tell him. Never let anyone pressure you. If he really likes you, he will be willing to wait.

As for friendship, you can suggest a "friendly break" if you do break up with him, of cos the friendship wont be the same again, but maybe after some time it'll settle. Don't think so far ahead right now, one step at a time.

good luck!

Answer 5

Ok umm just telll him everything u just wrote down. Tell him u don't wanna sound mean but it's the truth. In a relationship u have to have communication and trust. Also u could talk 2 u mom they're good at this type of thing

(Good Luck)

Answer 6

You've got to do what your heart tells you and don't worry too much about what your friends think. As for moving too fast you just have to have enough trust in yourself not to allow things to go further and faster than you want. Don't be afraid to say no or stop. If you go out with him limit your alone time for awhile go to the mall or skating or out with groups of people. Alone time is danger time have fun and b careful.

Answer 7

u need 2 tell him that u 2 have 2 takes slow not to quick as the time goes by ull learn 2 relax in ur relationship n about ur sister i cant really help because how r u going to be able 2 hide 4rm her with ur bf just be truthful 2 him n tell him whats going on.

Answer 8

I say you can go out with me just kidding what you should do is take things as slow as you want don;t let anyone rush you just tell him that things are going to fast and you want them to go slower tell him that he is your first boyfriend if he cares he will understand if he don't then he don't deserve you anyways there are plenty more boys out there some are mean and so are nice that's just how it is

Answer 9

If you like him that much, go out with him but insist on a public place so you feel safe. Also let him know that you won't let him go 'too far'. Tell him your boundaries and if he is truely a nice guy and respects you, he will understand. Good luck.

Answer 10

u should wait then and YES it will ruin the friendship more n likeyly if u guys dated then broke up he would never talk tou or it would be all weird. wait til ur like 16 and more mature about it, and im not saying anything mean by that