My guy put it on there...I found it when I got home...Our relationship is solid...or at least I thought it was...Deal breaker or?
2006-11-20 12:34:44 · 20 answers · asked by CAKES 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the responses...lots of insight here...Not into porn myself...find it offensive and degrading...But, keep the comments coming...!
2006-11-20 13:23:07 · update #1
Yes, just got off the phone with him...He denies putting it on our computer...not sure how it got here...
2006-11-20 13:24:09 · update #2
first whats really bothering you. the fact that he is lookin at porn or the fact he is using a shared computer to do it?
its very important to be specific on what the issue really is :)
"please dont look up trash that could ruin our computer"
now if you have a porn problem.. evaluate what you found... use it for hints? or be disgusted and make it a deal breaker...
You already feel a certain way about it so just think about it to yourself and decide based on who you are and your expectations in him.
dont ruin a solid relationship about something common..
if he is lookin at something that just isnt your fancy and never could be...discuss it then decide
2006-11-20 12:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is a guy and guys like porn...I'm not saying that all guys like porn but some do. Ask him if he likes porn and then tell him you found it on the computer that you also use. If it makes you uncomfortable to find it on your computer ask him to make a seperate folder just for his interest.
Just because he likes to watch porn does not mean that he is any less into you!
Some girls like to watch porn as well....perhaps it could become a new found interest for you. If not then just let him know that it makes you uncomfortable. A good relationship always has compromise, understanding and communication!
Hope this helps!
2006-11-20 12:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm pretty sure about 90% of the male population oogles at women and the rest don't have computers or a magazine subscription. If this is such a big thing that could be a "deal breaker" you need to re-evaluate your relationship.
2006-11-20 12:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by tenfootflames 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a deal breaker. Guys like porn.
2006-11-20 12:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by bethanybuilder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is a bit of a gray area.... men really like to look at it. Even some women. The deal breakers for me would be (1) anything involving kids, (2) very realistically depicted violence and cruelty, or (3) his preferring over sex with you, in that it diminishes your sex life.
2006-11-20 12:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is looking at porn does not mean you don't have a solid relationship. All guys look at porn, and if they say that don't, they are lying. Don't make a big deal out of it unless the pictures are of very young girls, or worse, very young boys!
2006-11-20 12:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be what you want to hear...but all guys have some type of porn. It definitely does not mean that he doesn't love you or isn't attracted to you. Guys just love porn.
2006-11-20 12:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the problem? what does porn mean to you that you react in a negative way towards it's existance?
porn is natural and has been around since the dawn of man.
2006-11-20 12:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its porn, honey its fine, its not like he's cheating. Everyone has fantasy's. Maybe talk to him about your discovery, and maybe theres something to make your sex life a little bit more heated up!
2006-11-20 12:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jenns705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad! My guy did the same thing,in fact he had a folder full of pics of other girls. I went ahead and made a folder of my own full of guy pics just for spite!! As soon as he saw them he immediately went into his pics and erased that whole folder. you should try the same thing. You shuold try talking to him about it and let him know how it makes you feel. Good luck and keep me posted!!!
2006-11-20 12:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by frostygurl8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋