I'm currently in a long distance relationship... somewhere in between i got caught up with my ex girlfriend...and got too carried away...both my ex-girlfriend and I TOTALLY regret what happened...We finally realized we couldn't see eachother at all...
I REALLY LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND... I see a possible future with her...I know i have done her wrong...but how do i approach my girlfriend that i trully love? I DON'T WANT TO LOOSE HER...
2006-11-20 12:32:36 · 29 answers · asked by ortegajairodgo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SERIOUSLY GUYS!!!
THIS IS KILLING ME!!!!
I felt like my ex-girlfriend pushed me to cheat...
After my ex found out how much it HURTS ME...she doesn't wan't anything to do with me...
I haven't talke to or see my ex in 2 months!!!
I HAVE NEVER CHEATED BEFORE...
I KNOW I F'ED UP...
BUT I LOVE MY GIRL....
2006-11-20 12:47:21 · update #1
don't tell her, unless is killing you for what you have done..
2006-11-20 12:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jax4all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved her you wouldnt cheat, thats how it works. I think you are going to have to tell her and let her decide where the relationship goes from there, if she claws your eyes out or one morning you wake up with one less testicle you know she hasnt forgiven you.
I would say good luck but I wouldnt mean it so I wont, simply because your excuse of "we got carried away" is the worst excuse ever, you knew you were in a relationship, your an adult and you should have restrained yourself.
I think the killer part for you is that you were unfaithful with your ex, someone you have previously had feelings for, not just someone you met at a bar.
How large are you, just so I know when I order your coffin?
2006-11-20 20:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by invisible_one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you tell her that? The only reason that cheaters confess is because they are either afraid of someone else telling on them, or they feel guilty and they want to make themselves feel better by easing their own consciences. Either way you are not doing your girlfriend any favors by telling her that you cheated on her. You knew what you did was wrong before you did it. You did it because you wanted to, otherwise you wouldn't have done it. The only thing that you will accomplish by telling your girlfriend is upsetting her, and possibly pissing her off to the point where she dumps you. At the least, she will never trust you again and you will probably break up eventually. You've made your mess, now sit in it.
2006-11-20 20:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her you will tell her the truth, as gently but honestly as possible, and be humble...don't expect her to forgive you and accept your apology..but tell her how you feel, that you really do love her and don't want to lose her...and that you want a future with her...she may or may not 4give you, but you can't be angry w/her if she doesn't. I would also give her time..she might want to break up, let her decide that, don't try to stop her...maybe some space will help her to think things through and analyze the relationship and come to a decision that's best for her. As for you, learn from your mistake and take the outcome--whatever it may be--as a learning, life experience that has taught you a valuable lesson.
2006-11-20 20:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to tell her no matter what. Just tell her the truth. But dont expect her not to be mad. If you really loved her, you wouldnt have even thought of your ex, let alone let things get carried away. CUT ties with the ex...you have to, otherwise it could happen again once the feeling of regret fades. Good Luck
2006-11-20 20:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ash_082 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you need to tell her in person. DO NOT listen to these people who say don't tell her. What if she ends up finding out later? That would be so much worse. Anyway, once you're with her, just be completely honest. Tell her everything! Tell her how you feel, and that you realize how stupid you were. Tell her what you just told all of us. Good luck! If she really loves you, it will work out.
2006-11-20 20:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by skichamonix515 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I was in your shoes when this happen to me and to tell you the truth I told my boyfriend what I did and he did not like it so we broke up. We was going together for 7 months and I just needed to tell him. So he did not like what I did so he broke up with me, it was like two months we did not talk, and finally he called. We talk as friends but not really like that. So in your case she might not forgive because the number one standard in a relationship is TRUST. No matter how far apart yall may be. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-20 20:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by star200252 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her. It was wrong what you did and if you can't control yourself now how can you ever control yourself if you got married. I think she deserves to know what you did and then if you want to tell her your reasons why you did it that would be a good start. You need to be honest and let her know what is up.
2006-11-20 20:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible that you still have a chance with her if you tell her the truth. but yo also have to realize that she may not ever be able to trust you and look at you the same way again even if you do stay together.
2006-11-20 20:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. She may forgive you but, she may not want to trust you again. You are aware of the consenquence. This bieng perhaps you may lose her. Most people cant stand bieng cheated on.
2006-11-20 20:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by divochka79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off you need to tell her youre sorry about what youre about to say and then tell her you cheated on her if she breaks up with you try and win her back...if she doesnt break up with you immediately then explain EXACTLY what happened between you two and see what she says and tell her that shes the only one for you and that you love her
2006-11-20 20:36:38 · answer #11 · answered by *meggie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋