Am I getting depresion?

Question

I have failed year 12
recently had another arguement with parents
dont know what to do with my self now I finished but failed college
want to be a stay at home dad when once we have kids but dont want the pressure all the time
and I just dont feel right anymore, failing college has made me feel that I have let everyone down, myself, my family and my partner Laura...

oh also mum and dad told me to "pack my bags" last night so I have and am leaving tomorrow or Thursday to be with Laura...

now I can talk to Laura who is my partner by the way about ANYTHING, my problem is I just dont know how I am going to tell her this, the fact that I may be getting depresion.

anyway people after reading my problems list what do you all think? am I getting the early stages of illness or not? also just so you know I have got a drink of choc lequior in my hand so I can forget about this til I see Laura tomorrow afternoon.

advice and help please, GENUINE ANSWERS ONLY.
Mitch

I am 18 by the way.

also how do I start a conversation like this with Laura, I dont want to scare her when shes already had pressures with her uncle being in hospital-now out and a ex mate always calling and texting sick dirty nasty and degrading things to her.

no we dont have kids yet, Im only 18.......what I mean is that once we have kids I want to be a stay at home dad but just dont see myself being there all the time (at home) esp when they're young

Answer 1

Hi Mitch,
I'm sorry to hear you are having these feeling at your age. I'm a clinical therapist and work children/adults with many different disorders. I can only go on what you are telling so please bear with me.
First I feel you really need to sit down with your gf and tell her what is going on. If you have plans to marry this women,you can't have any secrets.If you really love this women tell her you have not passed your courses.However, you will take some night classes or finsh online. Getting your education is going to be very important. If you want to be a stay at home dad you better let your gf know,you will have to know her feelings on this matter as well,be honest,open.

Your parents what whats best for you, I'm sure if you tell them you have been overwhelmed and that you feel depressed. They might understand what is going on with you,and get you the help you need.

Last but not least you need to go to see a Dr. to see why you are feeling down.Could be if you get on the right meds you will start to feel better and become your old self.

Also Mitch, drinking is not going to help you forget your problems,it will only numb it for a while. But tomorrow you will be facing the same thing.

Like I told you sit down maybe take her out to dinner and tell her you have not been feeling well, you not sure why,but you think you should see a Dr. to see if her can help you get yourself together.I will be glad to help you.. email is [e-mail]

Hope to hear from you and God Bless

Answer 2

Sounds like it. I would go see a Mental health Dr.You are no good to no one unless you are willing to make some serious changes in your life No one but you can fix this and maybe help from a pro to get you on the right track
Its not a good idea to drink as it is a depressive and will bring you down even more.. Hopefully your not self medicating.too

So get off the couch and get some help. I don't say this to be mean call the state if you half too. there are lots of resources in every state.

OK Diane

Answer 3

It possibly could be. Get a hold of a counselor and be evaluated to have professional answers to this question.
Its best to not drink until you know for sure. You could really end up doing something you shouldn't. If your home alone call someone up and talk. Invite a friend over or a close family member. Hang in there though I am sure you will pull through just do not give up on yourself and be strong. You already took the first step in recognizing you may have a problem! Just take the next in seeking professional help too......If not for yourself do it for your partner.

Answer 4

Failing a college course or courses only means you're not ready to be focused for college. I failed courses in the past (especially right out of high school) however, years later when I was ready, I maintained a 3.9 with hard work. While it is a slight setback, it is not something that can't be overcome. Maybe for now, you find a job to earn money and look for something you may have an interest in.

Arguments with parents happen. You have to ask yourself, why are they fighting with me? Chances are, they want you to 'suceed' (i.e. go to school, get a good paying job...you know, those parenting things.)

If you are still under your parents medical coverage, se your doctor and get a complete physical. Tell him or her how you have been feeling. Difficulties in life are sometimes just that...

Answer 5

i really hope you are not, but it sounds like you may be depressed already. just make a dr. appt. go and tell him everything you are feeling, be honest!!! Dr.'s can't help if they don't know the whole truth. depression is a hard thing to deal with and without medication it can ruin relationships very easily, believe me i know. did you say you had kids? if so you need to be checked for the sake of the kids of not for anything else, once you get help you will feel alot better, you need to talk to Laura about what you are going through, all realtionships need honesty and she won't think any less of you because you are having problems if anything she will love you more for being honest and trusting her with your personal feelings. Best of Luck to you and I hope everything works out.

Answer 6

Mitch., I work in Mental Health and I would suggest you see a G.P. ASAP. Your symptoms dont sound too serious but it wouldnt hurt to get an assessment, good luck, I hope everything works out for you and Laura.