I was on the phone with one of my aunts tonight (we are actually very close in age) and we were talking about her and her husband coming staying with us for a few days during Thanksgiving. They were married a couple of years ago but they usually spend Thanksgiving with his parents so this will be the first time together with us. He got on the phone and told me how he was looking forward to coming down and seeing us and I told him that I was too! Anyways, then he said something about making some of his favorite recipes - a green bean casserole and some kind of homeade raisin bread. I was totally shocked because my mom told me whenever women were present men shouldn't cook. I told him that he didn't need to do that and we would take care of everything but then he said he insisted. I don't know what to do because I don't want to be a rude hostess but I don't want to be a bad one either. It just makes me feel so weird that a man wants to cook, you know? What should I do?
2006-11-20 12:25:52 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let him come over and cook a ham, then your mom can spank him and then dinner will be ruined and you will have to breast feed everyone and your husband will be so upset he will take away your allowance, throw away the lingerie catalogue and make you sleep in baby's room! Then he will have to go see his mistress which will make you sad when you realize that he gave the ham to your aunt's husband in the first place just so all of this would happen (and he got the ham from Jessica - remember where that's been! Yech!)!
2006-11-21 07:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
WOW! Wish I had that problem of someone cooking for me!
He is a caring and considerate person-and being a guy-wants to 'show off' his culinary skills, so LET him. More than likely since it is only a string bean casserole and a homemade raisin bread, he will cook this the night before, leaving you in the kitchen the next day to do all the other preparations. He is sweet for offering to do this, and heck NO, a lot of men are better cooks than women are. Let him show off his dishes, but also let him know that YOU want to MASTER the rest of the meal with your kitchen wizardry, and that he could 'help' you by making sure no one interrupted you while you were cooking the rest of the dinner, and you could sure use a hand to set the table or to carve the turkey. No need to hurt feelings by making him feel like he is intruding in your home, after all it is THANKSGIVING, remember!
Be thankful someone wants to help! ps. see if he has a brother!
2006-11-20 12:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you realize how many excellent chefs are men? Have you tasted this guy's cooking or are you just being judgemental without having any evidence for your concern? Give the man a chance and just sit back and enjoy it. If the meal is a bust, make a few peanut and jelly sandwiches and enjoy the company of friends and family. After all, having the greatest dinner in the world is not what Thanksgiving is all about, it is a special time set aside to give thanks to the Lord for our many blessings. I have a feeling there are a lot of things in your life you can be thankful for.
2006-11-20 12:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow! I can't believe that you smart helpful yahoo answer people have fallen for yet another one of Little Angel's fake questions. Goodness! She/he has taught me that whenever I read these off the wall crazy questions from anyone else now I have to check the questions history to make sure the person isn't pulling a "little angel" on me. It's sad and pathetic, and everyone should learn to 1. read the history
2. read the other answers before you respond. You might find someone like me who can see right through Little Angel can save you the time it takes to think up a response that you mean to be helpful, but of which a question like that is not deserving.
2006-11-21 09:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many of the best chefs in the world are men. I know a man who is an artist, and he LOVES to cook too. He says he considers anything even remotely artistic to be his province. You should let him cook, or he may feel dis respected. You might enjoy his recipes. Another thought, maybe he has heard a lot about you from his wife, (your aunt), and he wants a chance to get to know you better, because he already thinks you are a great person.
2006-11-20 12:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by musemessmer 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say chill out and welcome to the 21st century. Your mom may have been right in her day that cooking was a woman's job. But society has come a long way. So what if he wants to cook? There are hundreds, if not thousands, of male chefs out there, what's wrong with a guy wanting to cook. "Whenever women are present men shouldn't cook" .. what are they supposed to be doing? Sitting in the parlor smoking cigars? I would take him up on his offer. Making the Thanksgiving dinner with your family is just as much fun as eating Thanksgiving dinner with your family.
2006-11-20 12:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by redcherri817 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First, your Mother sounds like she is from the old school. Women were women and men were men. etc. etc..
There is nothing wrong with letting a man cook!!!
They are some of the best in the world!
Give yourself a shake and join the rest of the world.
Allow him to help by making something! The bread sounds great!!
2006-11-20 12:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by darcy m 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe it's traditional in your family for the women to do all of the cooking, but some traditions need to be broken. I take it that Thanksgiving is being held at YOUR house (not your Mother's house). So it's your house, your choice. Lots of men cook. Let him cook. Maybe in his family it's traditional for men to cook. Start a new tradition. That doesn't make you a bad hostess. It makes you open minded to new ideas.
2006-11-20 12:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you serious??? I wish ANY man would come to my house and offer to help with the cooking! It's just my opinion that he sounds like a 'blessing.' I just hope he is as good as he thinks he is. If he is....great! If not...only he gets the complaints. You won't be responsible. There are a lot of men that are quite good cooks.
2006-11-20 12:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your situation is understandable traditionally (or stereotypically) men arent supposed to cook with women present. your mother must be very old fashioned. But we are in the 21 century loosen up try something new!...i also recommend you check up on his reputation as a cook (as in is he good or will the end result make you throw up more than you eat) i think you should be open to the idea. it may start a new tradition and open your eyes to great new family experiences
2006-11-20 13:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by Kema N 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋